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Default Apr 11, 2023 at 07:22 AM
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I'm not on medication anymore because it causes unpleasant weight changes. It slows my heart rate down and I find it hard to concentrate however that may change down the road as there's new meds coming out all the time. actually its the adrenaline I find hard to control, I suppose what i am asking is how do you navigate it? when you are at home and there's no one around you? because when I'm around people I'm the best version of myself, its when I'm on my own i tend to struggle and I think the whole world is caving in on me even though I look around me and I'm in a safe space but I don't believe it at the time because of the irrational thought processes.

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Default Apr 12, 2023 at 01:16 PM
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Anxiety can be brutal. My heart goes out to you.

I manage my own anxiety in a strange way. I have a kind of mission in life. It comes from my work on a crisis chat line.

This mission is what is important me. Things that used to worry me I now treat as minor compared to my mission of helping people in extreme distress.

I used to look at things and think: this is a problem. And I used to fear future problems.

Now I look and things and try to ask myself.....why ISN'T this a problem. Almost everything now is not a problem as long as I can go on with is my mission.

Lots of things go south in my life and could go south but as long as I have a meaning for my life, I am generally okay.

Of course, the terrifying face of anxiety still rears its ugly head from time to time. But I seem to be doing much,much better since I found a reason to live.

This is not offered as advice since I am not qualified to offer advice that you or anyone could or should rely on.

I got the idea of having a mission in life from the famous psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, Dr. Viktor Frankel. So it isn't my idea.

Hope you find ideas that help you with the terrors of anxiety. It is a brutal illness in my opinion.
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I have heard that from a few people that helping others helps yourself because its rewarding however I was in a relationship with someone with mental health problems who I tried to help but that help was thrown in my face and went unappreciated, terrified of it happening to me again.

It did keep the focus off my own problems for a long time but the weight of carrying his stressors and my own took its tole on me in the end. I am being really selfish now at this moment in time and looking after myself. It just seems to be story of my life, I help people but no one helps me. I just feel drained and keep attracting these individuals in to my life.
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@Gavreel,

You are clearly a good person and it is heartbreaking that you are taken advantage of by people.

I think it is good that you are being good to yourself. Self-compassion is underrated. How can one be a loving and compassionate person if one is not loving and compassionate to oneself.

My personal value system is almost the opposite of the ones promoted by the dominant culture where I live.

My society does not reward those who try to be humble,meek,gentle,striving for being merciful rather than getting even.

I must confess to be a baby in these matters. In spite of my age I still take baby steps towards my ideals.

Where I live people often regard my ideals as those of the ignorant, the foolish,the cowardky,the lazy,the losers so it isn't easy.

I tell you this so you don't think that having a mission is some kind of miraculous formula for eliminating anxiety. My first post, I think gave this impression.

Since I live alone, my ideals are not tested to the degree that people in relationships have their ideals tested.

Relationships can be incredibly difficult so I must salute you for trying to be good to others in the way you have.

I am not even worthy to offer you advice since you are living on a much higher plane than I am.

It is tragic that people have not treasured you. I wish I knew how to offer you real encouragement and solace but I don't know how.

I truly believe you are much better person than I am. I will pray for you if that is ok with you. Otherwise I will send you my deepest well wishes and good vibes.

So sorry I don't know how to be helpful to you in your difficulties and grief!!!!!
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@Gavreel,

You are clearly a good person and it is heartbreaking that you are taken advantage of by people.

I think it is good that you are being good to yourself. Self-compassion is underrated. How can one be a loving and compassionate person if one is not loving and compassionate to oneself.

My personal value system is almost the opposite of the ones promoted by the dominant culture where I live.

My society does not reward those who try to be humble,meek,gentle,striving for being merciful rather than getting even.

I must confess to be a baby in these matters. In spite of my age I still take baby steps towards my ideals.

Where I live people often regard my ideals as those of the ignorant, the foolish,the cowardky,the lazy,the losers so it isn't easy.

I tell you this so you don't think that having a mission is some kind of miraculous formula for eliminating anxiety. My first post, I think gave this impression.

Since I live alone, my ideals are not tested to the degree that people in relationships have their ideals tested.

Relationships can be incredibly difficult so I must salute you for trying to be good to others in the way you have.

I am not even worthy to offer you advice since you are living on a much higher plane than I am.

It is tragic that people have not treasured you. I wish I knew how to offer you real encouragement and solace but I don't know how.

I truly believe you are much better person than I am. I will pray for you if that is ok with you. Otherwise I will send you my deepest well wishes and good vibes.

So sorry I don't know how to be helpful to you in your difficulties and grief!!!!!
Most certainly I appreciate all your prayers. You always give great advice.
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