Aarrgh upcoming school year

MyBestKids2 · Aug 12, 2009 at 10:24 PM

I am so not looking forward to school starting this year for my kids. My son is entering 5th grade, and definitely in a better place emotionally this year to take on the challenge. However, I met one of the 3 prospective 5th grade teachers last year at a Science Fair. I was turned off by her persnickety attitude and aggressive manner immediately. I called both his guidance counselor and teacher the very next day. I didn't provide an explanation, but did request (and was granted verbally) he be in a class with the only male 5th grade teacher at the school. Well, I received his assigned teacher for this year, and it is NOT the male teacher, but the one I so DON'T want him to have. I am mad, really really mad. I know the staff is at the school this week, and I could call to "remind" the counselor of our discussion last year. I dunno, I just feel it won't be received well .

Any suggestions, opinions??????????? My paranoia is getting the best of me.

gimmeice · Aug 13, 2009 at 12:36 PM

((((((((((((( Mybestkids2 ))))))))))))))))))))
If I were you I would call and remind him, he should recognize his mistake and fix the situation. I am sending you lots of hugs, I know it can be stressful I have kids going into 5th, 3rd, 1st, and kindergarten this year.

Aug 13, 2009 at 07:06 PM

You can definetly speak with the principal and ask for his class to be changed!

MyBestKids2 · Aug 13, 2009 at 10:48 PM

Thanks all! I know what I should do, I really do! His school was so involved in our lives last year because of illness of his father. I just wanted to distance myself a bit.

I'm gonna do it, I'm calling Friday. Wish me luck

ParadoxicalOne · Aug 14, 2009 at 09:48 PM

I wish you the best of luck!

GrayNess · Aug 18, 2009 at 09:25 PM

I would call again and request for the teacher you did want. Perhaps the school may want to know the reason as that may make them more lenient to switch your son to the teacher you want.

Alternatively, if you still cannot get the change, you can have your son grin and bare it. Consider a teacher to be a boss or an employer, and throughout life, we're going to get bosses or employers who we're not too fond of but continue anyways.

MyBestKids2 · Aug 19, 2009 at 09:22 PM

Yes, I've decided we should grin and bear it, for now. I'm all for giving someone a second chance, heck I've gotten my share.

Still, my tummy is turning. Maybe its more me than him, I dunno. Guess we can't protect our babies from everything/everyone

AAAAA · Aug 21, 2009 at 09:56 AM

When my identical twins started school they were in different classrooms for Kindergarten. I have two older children and I was extremely overwhelmed at having two kids that were in the same grade doing completely different things. So from then on (until they hit 6th grade) I insisted that they be in the same classroom. The school fought me tooth and nail on this. They thought I was allowing them to use each other as an emotional crutch etc. I explained that I needed them to have the exact same assignments, have the same textbooks, be in the same place in the text books because there are only so many hours in the day. They’ve always had different interests and different friends but I couldn’t handle the homework load. They’ve got different strengths and weaknesses and they could help each other. (There was an incident involving “real” math that I do not understand to this day that one had to explain to the other.)

Every year I’d get their packet a week before school and every year I’d call and remind them that I wanted the twins in the same class. For some reason their fourth grade year packets were not available in advance and I went to school the first day as soon as it opened because I knew they’d split them up again. Once I got it straightened out, I brought the twins to the correct room and the teacher threw an absolute fit. She started screaming at me about school policy etc. I wasn’t about to get into a screaming match with her in front of my kids so I calmly gave a brief explanation as to why I insist we do things this way, I was sorry if she didn’t like it but my job was to ensure my kids got the very best education they could. She was so rude and condescending that I couldn’t stand her and I’d only known her for 10 minutes.

When I left the classroom that day I was absolutely certain I was going to be a fixture in the principal’s office that year. My husband joked on the way out “do you want to go in and make a standing appointment before we leave?”

This teacher turned out to be an absolute gem to my kids. My husband and I were never able to have a pleasant interaction with her (parent-teacher conferences etc) but she was an absolute wonderful teacher. She was their homeroom, English and Social Studies teacher. When she discovered one of the boys was having difficulties in math she took it upon herself to help him during and independent studies period without even being asked. I found out later that she even approached the math teacher on his behalf. It turns out that Matthew does all math in his head (still does to this day even being in honors advanced math, writing it out only confuses him which I’m told will be a problem for him in calculus next year). He wasn’t day dreaming, he was actually working. Here I was scolding him for day dreaming in class because his math teacher kept telling me that’s what he was doing, but this ogre of a woman actually figured out what he was doing and took it upon herself to step up and talk to his math teacher. She let the other teacher know that if he was sitting there “day dreaming” without putting anything on his paper he was actually doing the problem over and over in his head knowing somehow the answer was wrong but trying to figure out where he was making his mistake.

MyBestKids2 · Sep 03, 2009 at 10:14 PM

I am sooo glad I didn't call the school and make a blasted fool of myself.

Seems there are two 5th grade teachers who's last name ends with "son". Luckily, my little guy got the "good" one. He's so happy and relieved (me too)

AAAAA · Sep 03, 2009 at 10:27 PM

I'm so glad that everything worked out for you.

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Anonymous81711 Guest Posts: n/a	Aug 13, 2009 at 07:06 PM #3 You can definetly speak with the principal and ask for his class to be changed!
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MyBestKids2 Elder Member Since Sep 2006 Posts: 5,677 17 4 hugs given	Aug 13, 2009 at 10:48 PM #4 Thanks all! I know what I should do, I really do! His school was so involved in our lives last year because of illness of his father. I just wanted to distance myself a bit. I'm gonna do it, I'm calling Friday. Wish me luck __________________ Parce que maman l'a dit
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ParadoxicalOne Junior Member Member Since Aug 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 9 14	Aug 14, 2009 at 09:48 PM #5 I wish you the best of luck!
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MyBestKids2 Elder Member Since Sep 2006 Posts: 5,677 17 4 hugs given	Aug 19, 2009 at 09:22 PM #7 Yes, I've decided we should grin and bear it, for now. I'm all for giving someone a second chance, heck I've gotten my share. Still, my tummy is turning. Maybe its more me than him, I dunno. Guess we can't protect our babies from everything/everyone __________________ Parce que maman l'a dit
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MyBestKids2 Elder Member Since Sep 2006 Posts: 5,677 17 4 hugs given	Sep 03, 2009 at 10:14 PM #9 I am sooo glad I didn't call the school and make a blasted fool of myself. Seems there are two 5th grade teachers who's last name ends with "son". Luckily, my little guy got the "good" one. He's so happy and relieved (me too) __________________ Parce que maman l'a dit
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AAAAA Elder Member Since Oct 2007 Location: Midwest Posts: 5,042 16 1 hugs given	Sep 03, 2009 at 10:27 PM #10 I'm so glad that everything worked out for you. __________________ I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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