Why oh Why?

Who said it was unsafe ..... ?

The op did! Threats of violence among several other things.

I can see you are letting this thread get to you a bit with the exclamation mark....! I wouldn't let it affect you so much.

Now as far as I have read no violence has taken place just the threat of 'you are not too old to be spanked' remark (I have a twenty one year old and I use the threat of over my knee its not serious and everyone knows its not even if I am mad at him when I say it).

Fox is obviously scared of moving away from home at the moment so I don't see the sense in pushing Fox into something they are scared of. Out of the frying pan and into the fire saying springs to mind.

Maybe we should try to help fox build a better relationship with their father and helping Fox to stand up to him a bit in the right way rather than encouraging Fox to 'move out' at the moment.

Fox has said repeatedly that they are scared of moving out and really couldn't do that at the moment.

I found out something else to do with this situation and yes I also feel Fox should leave home.....

Actually, it was your question that got to me.

Why ?

I don't know the situation and don't plan on making out like I do but I can see mental abuse going on in that house. the threats to spank a 24 yr old and grounding her too. hon my mom put me down so bad I didn't think I could do things on my own either. I was trapped. you need to work on your self esteem and find your own place. you will be amazed at what independence will do for you! YOU CAN DO IT! just have faith hon.

I showed this thread to mom. I thought maybe it'd help open up a line of communication with here. I even showed her the post where I complained about her. I made her promise to not get mad and to not interrupt until I was done. It went pretty well. She was pretty defensive about it and kept saying I was just talking out of anger. The first post I was pretty upset, more confused though than anything else. Then she said that they can ground me because I didn't pay my full rent for February. So if I don't pay my rent I'm not an adult. I told her "that's fine I won't pay rent and you can treat me like a kid and you can do everything for me again, and pay my bills." she just laughed at me and said life doesn't work that way. No? It doesn't? But you just said!!!! Anyways she wanted to make a rebuttal to everything I said here to show why she's right in what they do. I refused though, she doesn't even know how to use a computer fortunately for me! lol.

I agree with Tishie, right now I just need to build up a relationship with my step-dad again. When I was 12 I was super close to him. Now we just keep butting heads, probably because I'm so much like him in other ways. He's under a ton of stress. He has high blood pressure, has had several back surgeries and is in constant pain, is disabled, and now we're getting daily calls from debt collectors since he was counting on some big settlement from workman comp that we never got. He is not happy with his own life. I'm just figuring I'll live this out till my parents die or something else changes.

Thank you so much for your different suggestions guys. Keep 'em coming! I won't be moving out anytime soon, but I am listening.

After something you told me in chat (which is not up to me to repeat even though it was in a full room of people) I believe you should move out and fast.

he won't hurt me. He never has. He just has anger issues he needs to deal with. He usually takes out his frustration by driving or punching inanimate objects. If it's something else you're worried about I'm not sure what. I know you guys are looking out for me, but I also failed to mention that he is really nice when he's in a good mood and was the answer to my prayers when I was twelve and married mom. I had picked him out and he's my daddy on good days. Like I said before I'm a lot like him so we butt heads and I push his buttons and he pushes mine. I just sometimes feel really hurt and say things I shouldn't.