[LittleForgetMeNot]

(sorry if this is in the wrong section, I wasn't sure where else to put it)

My brother has a mental disorder plus an eating disorder. He gets anxious when he does not have food in front of him. This has come from a result of my mother starving him as a toddler and now it's hard to control.

My Dad takes care of us both, works three jobs and plays clean up mommy at home. Now while he seems to be doing okay with this. I try to help him. I've made dinner and cleaned up.. but when I do so my efforts are insulted and then ignored. Dinner isn't good enough, potatoes weren't cooked right, I missed a spot here, I should just let him do it, go back to your computer. It's quite hurtful.

Now I know that he is majorly stressed and before the jobs and double-parenting he was a really fun guy, very affectionate and an emotionally devoted father. Now it seems the devotion is there.. but not the emotion. He lets us eat and drink whatever we want to. My brother is 8 and because of the constant access to pop, especially coke, he's just got back from the dentist after getting 2 teeth pulled, 6 fillings, on top of the 2 teeth he had capped a few years ago. This is horrifying to me.

It's come down to the point where I feel like I am more of the emotional parent of my brother at 15 than my Dad is. I worry more when he's lost and will spend 4 hours searching for him while my Dad is working. I will take him out to the swimming pool, parks, malls, fairs, and let him enjoy his life, while my Dad is working. When we go out shopping I refuse him any sweets, pop, or anything because I'm scared for his health.. he's already 120 pounds, 5 more than I, but my Dad will go against my worries and buy it for him anyway. When I get upset he will tell me I'm just a little girl, not the parent, and should just mind my own business.

I'm sad and hurt deeply by this. My Dad was never like this when I was little and I know he's stressed and possibly depressed but I am as well and the lack of emotion has also let him ignore my please for helps, therapy, and whatnot. He just doesn't seem to care anymore.. not when it comes to our feelings and health at least..

I really don't know what to do. I want to help my Dad, I want to save my brother but I myself need support to battle my own depression. We're a family full of problems and I really, really need help!