[crystalrose]

Has anyone out there experienced misscarriage. I have at 11 weeks, about 8 years ago, all the memories were blocked out for years but the memories are back and it is so sad. It is in my mind alot latley and I dont know what to do about it. my baby would have been 7 this year.
any advice would be appreciated.

[Cthomas]

Originally Posted by crystalrose

Has anyone out there experienced misscarriage. I have at 11 weeks, about 8 years ago, all the memories were blocked out for years but the memories are back and it is so sad. It is in my mind alot latley and I dont know what to do about it. my baby would have been 7 this year.
any advice would be appreciated.

I didnt have a miscarriage, but I lost my child 5.5 months into my pregnancy. I was told the baby would not make it. We induced labor .The heart was growing in the stomach, and multiple issues. They were right. The baby was in bad shape. Every year in july I go through a funk. I have not been able to have children after this due to a hemmorage and other issues. So the pain I have felt will never go away. You just need to know that things happen for a reason

Losing a baby is difficult. My son would have been 11 this year and the pain is so very real. I just pray that my son is my guardian angel looking down on me. The way i feel is this. I think about my son a LOT. I dont ever want to forget him or what he meant to me. As we love our children before they are even born. Just go through the waves as they come. This is all normal behavior. You are a mother. You will never forget.

I hope this helps. I also joined a local group for parents who lost a child.

Colleen

[lynn P.]

(((crystalrose))) - I haven't had a miscarriage but I wanted to send you hugs.

(((CThomas))) - so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your feelings. You wrote a beautiful post.

I had both my girls 2 months premature - my youngest was an emergency situation and I remember feeling so terrified of losing her. I've never experienced your pain and can't imagine how hard it mus be.

[Amazonmom]

I have had two miscarriages. One was at 7 weeks, one was supposedly over 8 weeks. The second miscarried baby would have been born last weekend on June 5. The labor process for my second miscarriage was the most painful experience of my life.

I am so sorry for your loss. We never forget our angels. Eventually we are able to live with the memories without it hurting so much.

[googley]

I've never had a miscarriage but wanted to give you support. I'm so sorry this happened.

I have had one miscarriage and it was very emotional and distressing, people say I was lucky as I went on to have another child but nothing or no one can replace the baby I lost.

I truly feel for you I feel your pain.

[misspretty]

Originally Posted by crystalrose

Has anyone out there experienced misscarriage. I have at 11 weeks, about 8 years ago, all the memories were blocked out for years but the memories are back and it is so sad. It is in my mind alot latley and I dont know what to do about it. my baby would have been 7 this year.
any advice would be appreciated.

I had a misscarriage last year and it is still sad to think about it. I was lucky enough to immediately become pregnant again and successfully have a baby who is now 2months, but I still think about losing the baby before this one. I feel that it will always be heartbreaking to me. Miscarrying is something that happens randomly and mostly for no reason at all; the baby just doesn't make it.

[beyond_blue]

I haven't miscarried, but my sister miscarried. The baby would have been my first niece or nephew and my parents first grand-baby. Even as a family, the loss of a little baby is felt. Of course, it's felt even more profoundly, I'm certain, by the mother and father. I personally believe the child's spirit lives on. I believe I have a little niece or nephew I'll meet up with one day. He/she is a part of our family.

I think it's great that you reached out for support here. Unfortunately, miscarriages happen fairly frequently. There are many woman who know your pain...and fathers-to-be who feel pain as well. The pain is real. The loss is real. It's perfectly okay to mourn for the child you lost. But, hopefully, also celebrate his/her brief presence within you.

[Yoda]

[Aunt Donna]

I don't think you ever get over a miscarriage. I had two within a ten month period. The first one I was bed ridden with and when the doctor said I could start moving around I miscarried. I was just starting the second trimester. The second one happened about seven weeks and required surgery. My son would have been 15 this year and it was too soon on the second one. I gave up after the second miscarriage but I did get pregnant again just about six years ago just to miscarriage almost as soon as I found out. It hurts. I haven't given birth to any children, but do specialize in spoiling others especially my nieces and nephews.

[MyBestKids2]

I had 2 miscarriages, then a successful pregnancy (daughter now 14), another miscarriage, then another successful pregnancy (son now 11), and another miscarriage.

There are no words for the pain that one goes through..wishing you well

[Inny2009]

((((to all who have miscarried)))) I have never miscarried but I wanted to send my well wishes and gentle hugs to you all. I have a little 1 yr old boy and it breaks my heart to pieces for even a near thought of losing him. My mother had a miscarriage before she had me and she has a theory about it. She feels that God chooses the family who the soul should go to and by whatever mother nature reason that the physical body should not go through, not make it that the soul chosen keeps trying to come through until you have a successful pregnancy because it was fate. She swears up and down that I was the soul who she miscarried but successfully came through the next time. I dont know if you guys think that is weird or messed up but maybe it will lighten up some of you to think that your child now was probably the child that was supposed to be born before and that you never actually missed out. That it was just the physical body. If I offend anyone with that, that is not my intention and my heart hurts for your losses. It is just my mothers opinion, perhaps just to help her cope.

[Amazonmom]

I thought that was a beautiful story.

[(JD)]

for all of you.

[Aunt Donna]

Originally Posted by Inny2009

((((to all who have miscarried)))) I have never miscarried but I wanted to send my well wishes and gentle hugs to you all. I have a little 1 yr old boy and it breaks my heart to pieces for even a near thought of losing him. My mother had a miscarriage before she had me and she has a theory about it. She feels that God chooses the family who the soul should go to and by whatever mother nature reason that the physical body should not go through, not make it that the soul chosen keeps trying to come through until you have a successful pregnancy because it was fate. She swears up and down that I was the soul who she miscarried but successfully came through the next time. I dont know if you guys think that is weird or messed up but maybe it will lighten up some of you to think that your child now was probably the child that was supposed to be born before and that you never actually missed out. That it was just the physical body. If I offend anyone with that, that is not my intention and my heart hurts for your losses. It is just my mothers opinion, perhaps just to help her cope.

The things that helped me cope was (1) a song called "Jesus' Rocking Chair" (it is for anyone who has had a miscarriage or lost a child after birth), and (2) my two nieces. My sister and her husband had the girls almost 8 years apart. My sister was in constant pain with the second one because of a factured pelvis and then the doctor had to take her because my sister had high blood pressure. My niece had to go immediately to the nicu. The doctors warned us that she may be mentally retarded. She is 12 now and has a 3.5 gpa and is helping her father with his college computer class. The girls are a very active part of our lives and thanks to the oldest, I have a great-nephew to spoil.