20 yo daughter brainwashed by a narcissist

My daughter started working at a boxing gym almost 3 years ago. The man that owns it is 13 years older than her. It took awhile for us to notice the signs....he was very subtle. He has brainwashed her and she is not aloud to do anything without him. He dictates where she goes, thinks and does. She's not aloud to have a relationship with us because we are considered "evil" people. About a year ago, this is what he told me over the phone "I am going to stab you with a sword and it will be full of cancer (Had cancer 7 years ago) and death will become you because you are an evil person. I am an Isrealite and I have been given the power to wish death on evil people." He lives at the boxing gym with her and we believe he is holding her against her will by all the brainwashing! I recently was able to finally get her to respond to my messages. Now that I have her attention, I don't want to lose it but I am dealing with a complete stranger here! She in not my daughter! She has been programmed to think and feel a certain way. She says she wants to meet me somewhere for lunch. So we can talk. How do I know this isn't some trick and he's not going to be right there ready to blow my head off! I want to see her so bad but I know he controls every aspect of her life. I can't tell her how I really feel because I risk losing all contact. She believes that he is this "God" and if I don't watch what I say around her, it's going to drive her away again. I don't even know how I am going to start a conversation with her because everything she thinks and feels is sickening to me! It's what he has put in her head!

((((((((((( survivor )))))))))))))

I can only begin to imagine the fear and anger you are feeling over this situation.

Have you done a background check on this character? Does he have a record, spent time in jail/prison, married/divorced/kids?

I think, in order to succeed at helping your daughter, you need to have every bit of information about him at your fingertips. Speak with an attorney and the police to find out what they can or cannot legally do for you and your daughter. If you are involved with a church, speak to your clergy person for help as well. I would get as much support as I could to back me up when dealing with your daughter.

Let the police know the threat that was made to you by him on the phone. Keep a diary of all conversations and don't delete messages or texts as those can be very useful to back you up.

Do not meet your daughter alone. Make sure it's in a public place. Have folks around that you know in the place as lookouts and can watch what is happening and jump in if needed.

Maybe what I've said is something you have already thought of doing, but it's about all I can come up with at the moment.

I wish you and your daughter much luck and safety!
sabby