Mom who is very concerned about her 16 yr old son

Hi.......I have a 16 yr old son who lives in Florida with his Father. His Fathers significant other & 19yr old son lives there as well. Even though I live in Pennsylvania I have contact with my son on a daily basis.
My 16 yr old son does Homeschooling (This is his 2nd yr) plus works with his dad in his lawn service. He rarely does anything else except go bowling with his dad and his girlfriend. So All he pretty much does is school and work.

The problem is.....My 16 yr old has been Disrespectful, lying, taking things without asking or that don't belong to him, playing video games on the computer when he should be doing his schoolwork etc...

Due to his fathers significant other, his father & I very seldom talked because she was in control of everything including making decisions for whats best of my son. I finally found out from the both of them 6 months after all this started going on and still is going on with my son.

My concern for him is He was very Anti-social, angry, He got picked on in school very badly, has some Emotional issues which he went to counceling for...ect..His fathers girlfriend handles 100% of my sons punishments which are military style...Yes he should be reprimanded for his actions but NOT in that way! he is always punished...All he does is go to work , homeschooling and his chores .

.I think he needs another form of contact such as a youthgroup, Big Brother & Big Sister ect.....because he cant catch a break from her barking at him all the time and being a detective and his father allows it....I think my son needs another form of contact to confide in someone at a personal level otherthan a family member to release the stress he has or whats really bothering him. Or maybe he is acting like a typical teenager......

IT CONCERNS ME!!! He had everything taken away...tv, no video games....I wanted him to stay here with me when he came to visit in the summer he said no no no.....I am very confused, angry, sad because I feel he is being deprived to being a teenaer......

What should I do???

hi minion97
I understand the powerlessness you must feel at not being able to help your son. have you tried expressing your concerns to his father?welcome to psych central. you will find that we have several forums where you can post your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome.

There are tons of home school groups in FL ask for him to join one of those, FL homeschoolers are allowed to take college classes, suggest that even if it's an art class, there's also the option of suggesting that he gets his own part-time job to start his work history.