[gloamingone]

I suffer from depression, agoraphobia with panic disorder, and PTSD. When I'm having a bad day (which happens very frequently), my ex steps in to take care of our eight-year-old son. He's happy to do this, but I worry about the effect it has on our son. I miss him so much when he's not here, but when he's here, I can't seem to handle him since I get stressed so very easily. Is there anything I can do to be a better parent?

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[Webgoji]

I assume you're getting therapy and counseling along with possible medication? If that's the case, then you're working on the best thing you can to be a better parent, if not, consider therapy and counseling.

[gloamingone]

Definitely on meds and in counseling. I guess moms are just good at feeling guilty!

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[spoiledprince]

Just the idea that you care and worry means you're not a bad mother. Much love to you, dear.

[Fuzzybear]

good mom

[gloamingone]

I'm trying to have him tonight. It's only been an hour, and I'm so frustrated and stressed. He's an extremely active eight-year-old, and I just can't seem to keep up with him!

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[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by gloamingone

I'm trying to have him tonight. It's only been an hour, and I'm so frustrated and stressed. He's an extremely active eight-year-old, and I just can't seem to keep up with him!

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Ask him to say 'silverfish fish for fish' ten times fast. My kids, just asked me to, as I was reading this. One kid, can demand alot of attention, at one time...
What can you get him, to entertain.himself with?
Wish I had great answers, but don't really. Because you are asking for support and advice, makes your intent good, which in turn is being good mom. .
It's winter, 8 is one of 'those' ages for boys.
What is he getting into?
Do you know the 'hmmm, yep, nod, I'm listening look?


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[gloamingone]

He's got everything you'd think a kid would need: books, a laptop with Netflix, a Wii, tons of stuff to draw with, a dog to play with, etc. When he's with me, I encourage him to entertain himself, but his dad has a bad habit of entertaining him every second of the day. It's very frustrating!

I have him in the kitchen playing with magnets right now.

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[healingme4me]

Being their constant companion, just seems unrealistic, to me. Nothing wrong with the reality, that you and your son, need a bit of space, under same roof. I've got three, and i realize, they realize, i crave a certain amount of solitude, and they get attention, and have each other, tech access, etc. it's a marathon, not a sprint...

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[gloamingone]

I completely agree! There's always a bit of conflict when he comes to my place from his dad's. Takes him a while to get used to the way things are here. Thankfully, after watching a movie with us, he decided to go to his room for a while.

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[lilithmoon]

Speak with his dad about him learning independance. My son was like that when younger at times but as only child for 6 years he learned to entertain himself. Your son is just adjusting to how things are different at your house. Thats not bad. I am the same way and feel guilty, but actually when speaking to ky son about it he says he likes me to leave him alone to play xbox or whatever he is doing! He was a very independent 8 year old but also craved a lot of attention, and still likes to do thinhs with me.

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[lilithmoon]

He is 10 now

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