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Feb 19, 2014 at 04:46 PM
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I have a 3 year old. I've always had a patience problem but with my anxiety, depressiin and depersonalization being as bad as it is right now I feel like I can't cope. My husband does a lot of the parenting bcause I can't. I get so easily frustrated with him and yell. I'm afraid I will lose control and hurt him. I'm never alone with him though. He's 3. This isn't fair to him. And its killing me. I just want to be a good mom. He's in preschool and I get time to myself. Why am I failing so absolutely miserably?
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Feb 19, 2014 at 11:01 PM
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Who said you were failing as a parent? I'm sure your husband knew what he was getting into when he married you. Things are going to be ok.
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Feb 20, 2014 at 05:19 AM
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If you get to a point where you feel like you could hurt him then yes there is a problem. Are you in therapy? Have you had any anger management? Have you taken any parenting classes? I don't think you have failed as a mom but if all you are doing is yelling and your husband does all the parenting, what kind of relationship will your child have with you? What kind of problems will they have in the future because of this?
When it comes to kids I don't mess around, my suggestion would be to get into some therapy, control your temper and don't yell (i know it is hard but believe me it will be better for the child). You have to put the child first always. __________________ “I'm so good at beginnings, but in the end I always seem to destroy everything, including myself.” “I told her once I wasn’t good at anything. She told me survival is a talent.” |
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Feb 20, 2014 at 05:52 AM
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Recognizing you'd like to improve, is a first step. Which means, in my eyes, you do want him to come first.
Noone said parenting was easy.  These stressful moments, what's triggering your stress level? Patience, isn't naturally bestowed on 'all' of us... Keep your chin up... Sent from my LG-MS910 using Tapatalk 2 |
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Feb 20, 2014 at 02:00 PM
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Thank you all. I am in therapy, on medication. I do spend time just the two of us. Before my anxiety, depression etc took a turn for the worse I took him out a lot. To fun kids activities like the childrens workshops at home depot, the farmers market. I guess I feel guilty because I'm strugglinh. I'm not able to do as much and that's frustrating. Anyways thanks for the advice.
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