Girl does not want go to school

My 13 years old girl does not want to go to school sometimes. She missed school about 5 times this semester. I asked her why, she said " I don't know".
She doesn't let me come in her room; she does something in her room on the computer, on ipad. She doesn't want go outside. No friend. She doesn't like to take bath.

I don't know what I can do. Any one can help?

Can you get her to see a therapist?

lack of hygiene tends to happen with stress and/or depression. I agree with smmath... maybe seeing a therapist would be a good idea. She may just have a online friends. I know that may not be what a parent exactly wants to hear, but as long as she has some sort of community to work her problems out with, thats a plus. I was the same way when I was 13... I isolated myself really badly, but over the past 5 years I have really come out of my shell. She'll come around... be patient, but always reassure her that you love her and care about her.

I have 13 yo,who doesn't really have many friends,spends most of her time on the computer,though has excellent grades.She is avoiding people,crowds. I think in our case it is our family relationship,more precisely relationship between my husband and myself,as well as grandparental selfishness ,which is affecting her and stripping down whatever self esteem she has.I know she has not been abused ,she is not really bullied in the school.
I guess I'm trying to say,look into all that.Depression,no selfesteem,avoidance can be the cause of it. Sometimes kids prefer the computer because they can converse easier through PC,then in real life,which is tough on us -parents.
good luck

I am on the computer alot myself and I am a adult. But, I have depression. It sounds like depression to me... we depressed people internalize alot.

All I feel safe to say is, this definitely needs some kind of intervention. Hang in there.

I am not a parent so I do not have experience in this area. But, the first thing I would do is take the computer out of her room and put it in a more active part of the house. That option would get her out of her room. Plus, she is young and apt to make stupid mistakes. You should be monitoring her computer use and know who she is talking to and what she is doing.

If I remember correctly 13 is a very difficult age for a girl. I remember not being sure who I was anymore or how I should act. My friends were all going through their own changes and I found I could not relate to them anymore. Your daughter is probably in the throws of being a teen ager. Maybe she just need to know you still love her and support her and are intersted in what is happening to her. She needs your help to get through this stage. It is not an easy journey.