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Should I keep my daughter's dad away from her because he is a "romantic" relationship with his other daughter's grandmother?
My ex has two other daughters who are 3 months apart. One daughter is from his girlfriend at the time and the other from his girlfriend's mother. I didn't know this before becoming pregnant. He always denied the daughter he had with his "mother in law." He doesn't pay child support, lives off that woman and in my eyes has no morals or values. I don't want to keep him away based on my anger. I am extremely affected by this situation but I want put my daughter's well being before mine. My daughter is now 9 months and he has barely started to see her since I realized what is really going on. I am afraid that his behavior now and in the future(I doubt he will be change his ways any time soon) will negatively affect my daughter's emotions. I would appreciate your advice, thank you. |
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Hello and welcome to PC! I'm glad to see you have found your way around PC.
I don't think that this relationship with his other daughters grandmother is all that awful, though definitely outside of the norm. Despite his relationship with that woman, he is still the father of your child and has done nothing wrong to her or you so I believe you should let him see her if he chooses to. __________________ Allie Diagnosed: Generalized Anxiety Disorder & Obsessive Compulsive Disoder. Previous: Borderline Personality Disorder. I no longer qualify for a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, but there will always be my borderline traits that I struggle with especially during times of great stress. I've been working passionately as a therapist since December 2016
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I don't know, It sounds like a toxic relationship for sure. It may be that he will take the decision out of your hands by just not being around for her anyway. It sounds like he's not a supportive father anyway.
I would get a court ordered judgement against him for child support. That may be the last you see of him anyway! I hope this helps __________________ “Then what is your advice to new practitioners”? “The same as for old practitioners! Keep at it “. Ajahn Chah Bipolar 1 PTSD Social Anxiety Disorder Panic Attacks Parkinsonism Dissociative Amnesia Abilify 15mg Viiibryd 40mg Clonzapam.05mg x2 Depakote 1500mg Gabapentin 300mg x 3 Wellbutrin 300mg Carbidopa/Levodopa 25mg-100mg x 3 |
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It's conflicting, from how his absenteeism sounds. If he's only seeing her, randomly that could be as damaging as not at all. It's one thing if he's taking all available options to see her. It's another if he isn't. It's one thing if you, as the custodial parent are making every attempt to foster their relationship, another if you aren't. |
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