[lovingmylittlestar]

Should I keep my daughter's dad away from her because he is a "romantic" relationship with his other daughter's grandmother?
My ex has two other daughters who are 3 months apart. One daughter is from his girlfriend at the time and the other from his girlfriend's mother. I didn't know this before becoming pregnant. He always denied the daughter he had with his "mother in law." He doesn't pay child support, lives off that woman and in my eyes has no morals or values. I don't want to keep him away based on my anger. I am extremely affected by this situation but I want put my daughter's well being before mine. My daughter is now 9 months and he has barely started to see her since I realized what is really going on. I am afraid that his behavior now and in the future(I doubt he will be change his ways any time soon) will negatively affect my daughter's emotions. I would appreciate your advice, thank you.

[atomicc]

Hello and welcome to PC! I'm glad to see you have found your way around PC.
I don't think that this relationship with his other daughters grandmother is all that awful, though definitely outside of the norm.
Despite his relationship with that woman, he is still the father of your child and has done nothing wrong to her or you so I believe you should let him see her if he chooses to.

[Hobbit House]

I don't know, It sounds like a toxic relationship for sure. It may be that he will take the decision out of your hands by just not being around for her anyway. It sounds like he's not a supportive father anyway.
I would get a court ordered judgement against him for child support. That may be the last you see of him anyway! I hope this helps

[jimmy rich]

Originally Posted by lovingmylittlestar

Should I keep my daughter's dad away from her because he is a "romantic" relationship with his other daughter's grandmother?
I am afraid that his behavior now and in the future(I doubt he will be change his ways any time soon) will negatively affect my daughter's emotions. I would appreciate your advice, thank you.

If that was my problem, I would do whatever it takes to make sure that nobody or nothing ever DAMAGES my child - emotionally or any other way!

[lovingmylittlestar]

Originally Posted by atomicc

Hello and welcome to PC! I'm glad to see you have found your way around PC.
I don't think that this relationship with his other daughters grandmother is all that awful, though definitely outside of the norm.
Despite his relationship with that woman, he is still the father of your child and has done nothing wrong to her or you so I believe you should let him see her if he chooses to.

You don't think that the fact that he got mpther and daughter pregnant 3 months apart is that awful?

[lovingmylittlestar]

Originally Posted by jimmy rich

If that was my problem, I would do whatever it takes to make sure that nobody or nothing ever DAMAGES my child - emotionally or any other way!

That is exactly how I feel, I want to protect my daughter from emotional damage.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by lovingmylittlestar

That is exactly how I feel, I want to protect my daughter from emotional damage.

Does he ask to see her? Is there a visitation schedule?

It's conflicting, from how his absenteeism sounds. If he's only seeing her, randomly that could be as damaging as not at all.

It's one thing if he's taking all available options to see her. It's another if he isn't. It's one thing if you, as the custodial parent are making every attempt to foster their relationship, another if you aren't.