6 year old wet her pants?!

livelaughlove22 · Nov 16, 2014 at 09:31 PM

I asked her 5 minutes before she peed her pants if she had to use the restroom. She said no. I asked if she wanted to try. She said no. Then 5 minutes later she peed her pants. This is not acceptable. I need to discipline her somehow but I am not sure what to do.

doyoutrustme · Nov 16, 2014 at 09:42 PM

I think at that age peeing yourself is it's own consequence. Make her clean up after herself.

livelaughlove22 · Nov 16, 2014 at 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by doyoutrustme

I think at that age peeing yourself is it's own consequence. Make her clean up after herself.

I tried to and she wouldn't do it. She kicked me and said no you clean it up.

livelaughlove22 · Nov 16, 2014 at 10:53 PM

She wet her pants AGAIN

unaluna · Nov 16, 2014 at 11:04 PM

Are you at disneyland yet? Are you in a strange environment? Is something going on thats different?

livelaughlove22 · Nov 17, 2014 at 12:06 AM

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Originally Posted by hankster

Are you at disneyland yet? Are you in a strange environment? Is something going on thats different?

We are at Disneyworld yes. But that does not give a 6 year old the excuse to pee in her pants when she's been asked multiple times if she needs to use the restroom.

IowaFarmGal · Nov 17, 2014 at 12:06 AM

I remember when I was little I had a bunch of bladder infections and I had no sensation of having to go until I had to go really bad. I'd end up crossing my legs and squirming to the bathroom. Just make sure she changes clothes and takes a bath so the other kids don't make fun of her. It's not a punishment discipline type thing, it's learning to take care of yourself.

unaluna · Nov 17, 2014 at 12:14 AM

Well maybe the park environment is more than she can handle mentally for some reason. This is not a typicsl child. You cant expect her to behave normally in what are extraordinary circumstances for her. Can you get her some pullups or something - they might make her feel more secure. I get the impression she is not that big of a child - maybe with her being in the hospital so recently, she really cant help it.

technigal · Nov 17, 2014 at 12:25 PM

My son did similar things when he was that age. They get so focused on what they are doing that they don't want to stop even for a minute to go to the bathroom. I would just take my son to the bathroom and tell him he had to try to go before he got to do anything fun.

And I really do think she is testing you.

SabinaS · Nov 18, 2014 at 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by livelaughlove22

We are at Disneyworld yes. But that does not give a 6 year old the excuse to pee in her pants when she's been asked multiple times if she needs to use the restroom.

She's a 6 year old girl who has been through a very traumatic time. Wetting herself is not a sign of bad behaviour - you really need to change your perception of this, otherwise you won't be able to help her.

I know it's frustrating and tough - but as hankster said, she's in a new place. Kids crave the predictable, anything outside of that (even if it's a fun treat) can be stressful.

Best thing you can do, is clean her up and ask her again to tell you when she needs to go to the bathroom.

SabinaS · Nov 18, 2014 at 05:18 PM

Also, from what you've described, her behaviour doesn't sound like that of a typical 6 year old - she sounds more like a 3 year old, which would be understandable with the trauma she's suffered. I think you need to bear that in mind, when dealing with her behaviour. It's not unusual to ask a 3 year old if they want to go for a wee 5 times and them say no, even when they're crossing their legs and doing a little dance! I know, I have one. Take a change of clothes when ever you go out.

I've also read that issues with bladder control, can be a symptom of sexual abuse - another thing to bear in mind.

A Red Panda · Nov 18, 2014 at 07:09 PM

Instead of just asking her to go, try to make it so that EVERYONE goes all at the same time. Then it's not a question of "do you need to go" but "everyone's going so that we don't have to keep going in at different times. Your turn!"

She might be getting mad at you and refusing to clean up afterwards... but you know, that's probably more embarassment than anything else.

Just try to respond compassionately, have extra clothes around at all times, and maybe swap to the older-kid sorta pull ups? (what are those called? The good nite things?). It's a new behaviour for her, so it's likely just the excitement and stress of being somewhere cool. She's likely never done anything as fun and just doesn't notice the bladder.

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livelaughlove22 Member Member Since Jun 2014 Location: United States Posts: 137 9 22 hugs given	Nov 16, 2014 at 09:31 PM #1 I asked her 5 minutes before she peed her pants if she had to use the restroom. She said no. I asked if she wanted to try. She said no. Then 5 minutes later she peed her pants. This is not acceptable. I need to discipline her somehow but I am not sure what to do.
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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,113 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.9k hugs given	Nov 16, 2014 at 11:04 PM #5 Are you at disneyland yet? Are you in a strange environment? Is something going on thats different?
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