Parental Alienation Syndrome. (P.A.S.)

It really is the most devastating experience a mom or dad? have to live with.
Recently my 35 year old had broken a 30 year silence and called me a few times. She's in bad shape with depression, eating disorder, anxiety etc. She suddenly stopped calling. I am totally devastated........ It's like a carrot is dangling in front of me, then yanked away. I'm more depressed than before I heard from her! Crying a lot. Then I sometimes just stay there and try to figure out what's going on. I'm very frustrated. I have a lot of anger from other issues that not in my control. I hate being misunderstood by a new mental health worker who never even met me until last week. I'm going to leave a message on her phone telling her she doesn't even have updated information, and how I hated being browbeaten by her. She treated me like a kid! I stay in my bed and write, pray and watch a bit of tv. I have no hope. I thought we were beginning a long road to some sort of relationship...guess not. My younger daughter won't even talk to me on Facebook. She just disappeared, she unfriended me and I have no idea why.
You guys wouldn't believe what I've been going through with my GP. Doc. It's sickening. I can't get out of their government clinic so I'm waiting for my medical files and just going out there looking for a doc that believes what I say, respects me and doesn't abuse me like my ex dr, if you can call her that.

I'm friggin 61 years old, alone, afraid of people, and broken-hearted cause of my kids who I am going to write to and say, don't dangle a carrot. It hurts too much. I even hate myself lately.

I tried to edit my last post but nothing happened. I wanted to sayI hope I don't hear from my daughter again, because I'm too hurt and depressed. I have been hoping for awhile that I don't live a long life. I can't take anymore stress and bad stuff happening. I can't even tell you anything good that's happened to me since my mom died and my sister died. I'm very poor now, can't afford to buy an occasional pizza. Seriously. I have t had even a few days away from the city for 20 years. No money. I have no hair because of psoriasis and meds crumbled my teeth and had to pull all of them. Dentures are floaters! I can't even wear dentures! That's not all but you get the point. I'm very unhappy and have nothing to look forward to.

I just joined this forum this AM after reading an article on pro.psychcentral.com which did not mention PAS, however right on target for same. Title: "When Your Kids Turn Against You In Favor of the Narcissistic Parent"
I 'get' this issue, sons now in 20s, been divorced nearly a decade. I certainly appreciate the need to 'break the silence' over this insane kind of insidious abuse.
Just now learning to navigate this forum.

From my experience, the courts prefer to avoid addressing the real issue (I was alienated) and blamed me for the distancing of my daughter from me based on heresy and what seemed to be preconceived notions.

When my ex came and kidnapped my daughter police said nothing would be done unless I went back to court to address the issue, the papers in my hand meant nothing. A few months with mom led her to having to go to live in a mental institution the past 3 months. After she betrayed me and jeopardized her younger brother's living with me (I have custody he's from another woman), she's now stating she wants to live with me again and hopes to be out by the end of the year. This is concerning because after all I've been through with her, it's challenging to trust anything she says. I hope she's genuine and isn't coming back home as part of the grand scheme to cause me further problems regarding custody of my young son with her mother (and new bff- son's mom) behind the scenes as the puppeteers.

You mentioned there wasn't many resources for mothers could have been alienated try being a custodial father who was alienated. I have yet to find another like me but I'm sure they are out there.

The results of parental alienation are terrible.
Equally bad is when so-called professionals will not address it properly. As a result, they also destroy the lives of the innocent. It's a shame the system is as sick as those alienating.

I am dismayed that the DSM-5 rejected this as a diagnosis by agreeing with propaganda in fear of what could happen in the future, instead of paying attention to what's already happened and how it's clearly been documented all over the world simultaneously by individual scientists unbeknownst to each other. 1985, I might as well be the poster child for this very real mental illness. Every single symptom and all the criteria live within me. I just found out about it today. It explains everything. I've been on a search my whole life trying to figure out what is wrong with me. I feel like my arms and legs have been cut off and by denying pas by the dsm makes me feel like they are still asking me to run a marathon. So what is a 45 year old misfit who will never have children or any friends or any significant relationships or be able to have any type of career supposed to do next? How dare they deny my long lived reality?

peejcrafter, Hi! I'm confused...you haven't had any contact with your daughter since she was five years old, then she called you?

Hey, peej! Good to hear you're here again. Thanks for the help for people with this problem.

My sister lost all her 4 children to PAS. It was and is devastating.

I haven't been able to find any resources for the adult children of parental alienation. Only helpful books and articles for the parents. I'm looking for self help. Any advice?

You might find these of interest
Parental Alienation: Adult Children Still Choose the Abuser over the Loving Alienated Parent

Damage Done By Parental Alienation

Parental Alienation Syndrome, Social Workers, Parental Rights - Ask the Therapist

The Cheated Children of Parental Alienation