Child screaming and parenting disagreements

I am still tired from well the trip and hearing 2 year olds scream is just to much to be honest I wish she was my child so I could put her in her home and let her scream until she falls asleep. It seems like that's what she wants to do so why should I force food down her throat. That's how I see it with people that are difficult not just children sometimes they have to do the uncomfortable things before they find out they don't like it. I just think making her eat and let her scream and then slap her in the butt for screaming is just not going to make her learn that if she screams she's going to have consequences. I have always thought violence I mean like tiny amount on her butt isn't going to teach her much other then it's going to make her afraid of expressing her emotions. The problem isn't that she's screaming it's more that the parent won't let her express her pain and is very quick to hit her. Children need patience and well acknowledgment for there emotions that's why I will never agree with any form of violence. When I raise my children I want them to be able to express there negative feelings until they learn a way to express them better who am I to control how they express emotions by hitting them?

I have 2 children and grew up abused, I stopped that cycle and never hit my children. Hitting them doesnt teach them anything, and is damaging. When a child is screaming, they are out of control and need a calm parent to talk to them quietly. Most of the time when a parent hits a chiild it is out of frustration. THEY ALL need to watch "Supernanny"

Why is the child screaming? Why did the parent let it get to the point where the child is screaming?

As a parent, I never let anything get that far. My kids never had any reason to scream out of pain.

I remember having to carry my very young kids (like 3 years old) out of public places because they threw a fit over wanting something or being over-tired, or having learned bad words and deciding to scream them at me. (That happened once in a Saks Fifth Avenue store. My son started screaming F**k you, Mommy! Because he had learned that word from hearing his father say it and my son was mad I wasn't going to get him something. I was so embarrassed! I just walked as fast as I could with him out of the store, past the make-up department employees who gave me appalled stares. Ugh!)

I was wondering the same thing Tisha was...what happened to start all the screaming and it being continual? I never spanked my child. If she had a meltdown in a store, we'd leave immediately. Change the environment. It only happened if she was over-tired.

I never gave in on buying toys and candy "on demand" so that was never an issue. My boyfriend spoiled his daughter too much as a toddler. She'd have a tantrum in the grocery checkout line if she didn't get candy. He would always give in. I just stayed out of that and didn't go on those grocery trips often.

Probably got off-topic, sorry.

Is the screaming child a family member? Forcing food? Hitting, too? It sounds concerning and violent. Admittedly, I'm sensitive as to violence. I do not like it at all and I'm gentle. I definitely got frustrated as a parent but never hitting, ever. Maybe it's cultural. I hope things are ok.

Screaming because she didn't want food and they just kept feeding her I thought it was wrong to feed her when she really didn't want food. I felt horrified as I felt it was a gross steeping over boundaries but then again I am oversensitive to people stepping on my boundaries and seeing her just say I don't want to over and over again just scared me.

That is scary and sad.

Wow...WOW

They were shoving food in the mouth of a child that was screaming that they don't want it? Yikes. That's abusive and will cause eating issues. I had some issue when I was little that I just wouldn't eat and my mother abusively screamed at me until I'd get hysterically crying and run away from the table to hide in my room. It was horrible and abusive and I did/do have eating issues.

When my kids didn't want to eat, I never forced them. I'd ask them to just try a taste of the food, but if they wouldn't even do that, I'd just not say anything, but not let them have any junk food until they ate something healthy when they were ready.