My Mom?

I'm not sure where else to put this because I couldn't find a family section, but this is about my mom.

My mom is an extremely hard worker and I love her but sometimes she's so hurtful. I'm working so hard in school right now trying to maintain straight A's in college so I can get my GPA up to qualify for a scholarship and for the past few weeks, my homework has been nothing but papers. I've done 13 research papers already and it's only October. She thinks just because I don't have a job that means I have all the free time in the world, when in reality I do more work trying to get the grades I do in school than her working a full time job. I've showed her my course work but she refuses to get it. We haven't been able to go grocery shopping for a while and we've been eating pretty much anything that can be bought from our local Dollar General store because I've been so swarmed with papers that I absolutely CANNOT fail or get less than a 100% on for the sake of trying to maintain my grades. Since her truck is broke, I'm the only one with a working car but I've been so swarmed doing school work I just don't have the time to give her a ride and spend 4 hours in the grocery store. I've already talked to a lot of people about this and they have said she needs to chill out, but it's getting so bad I don't know what to do. I've offered to try to help her find a ride but she absolutely refuses, even if it's asking her best friends. She screams at me that i'm disrespectful when I'm trying to find a solution but I can't just drop school and right now she's wanting me to drop out of school so I can give her rides. And today now when I finally have free time, I've been quickly trying to get my laundry done because I've been wearing nothing but dirty clothes and underwear over and over because I just DON'T have the time and I've offered after I'm done I can take her grocery shopping and that's STILL not good enough. What in the world am I supposed to do?

Is there a reason she can't borrow your car and go to the store without you?
lol, and just out of curiosity, what classes are you in where you have had to write 13 research papers this semester?

I'm in an English class and a Sociology of Gender class. My Professors have high expectations. And she can't borrow my car because my dad who holds the title for it (he bought the car) is not comfortable with it. We just got back from the grocery store where she screamed at every associate and I had to pull them aside and apologize to them for they did nothing wrong. I just don't really know what to do? All she does is scream at me for being disrespectful when I'm trying the best I can to find ways to help her and try to figure out when I have the time to go.

I am not excusing your moms behavior...at all. I think she's very wrong.

However...(ugh) sometimes the pain of having a child break away causes strange behavior. It could be some kind of subconscious will to have you fail and always be her baby....It could be her age (hormones are, like, hellish)... it could be stuff she's going through that you don't know about.

What about going to the "library to study"? It's a message that you're working so hard you need the peace and quiet (true)...
Drive her to the grocery store and pick her up when she calls?
Explain to your dad what's going on and can she use the car?

Honestly, you both are having growing pains. The time will come when you will have to call a halt to her temper tantrums (and she's on her own with her social issues) and she will have to accept your adulthood.

But it's not easy
You will get through this, though.