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Nov 11, 2017 at 10:41 PM
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She's close to 300 pounds and every time I see her eat makes me more afraid she'll end up on 600 lb life. We haven't been on speaking terms for months, but I still fear for her even though I'm angry with her. I'm angry about her carelessness regarding her health, too. I just don't know how much more foolishness i can take.
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Nov 11, 2017 at 11:10 PM
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You could try being supportive instead of judgemental. It's an addiction, not foolishness.
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Nov 12, 2017 at 12:21 AM
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Yeah, try a different approach.
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Nov 12, 2017 at 09:47 AM
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Ultimately it will need to be your daughter that decides to lose weight, and it will have to be for her and not for anyone else.
If you have not been on speaking terms for several months I would not recommend bringing that topic up in conversation. Like this post you have made, you will likely just come across as judgmental and will push her away further. Also, I recommend you take the term "foolishness" out of your vocabulary regarding this situation. There are many reasons someone can be morbidly obese, and foolishness is never the correct term to describe these reasons. Your daughter is probably struggling and needs support, not judgement. |
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Nov 12, 2017 at 10:05 AM
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I'm taking a wild guess as to why the no speaking terms....
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Nov 13, 2017 at 10:19 AM
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Never mind . . . ��
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Nov 13, 2017 at 11:00 AM
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I'd say that your daughter needs support from people in her life who will listen and be there for her without judgment. I don't think that person, however, is you. It might be best if you continue to stay out of her life as you mentioned your relationship is not a good one and allow her to find acceptance and support from others in her life.
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Nov 13, 2017 at 12:29 PM
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There can be genuine concern when addressing a loved ones weight issue.
Of course, be careful not to be a hypocrite, cherryberry, are you in good health? Are you at a healthy weight? No one would listen to a ski instructor that cannot ski... Cherryberry, you need to fix your relationship with your daughter first, then you should have a open hearted discussion(s) about your concerns and tell her how you can help her achieve better health. You’ll need patience, and you may need to walk the path along with her. You’ll need to boost her confidence and not degrade it. Good luck. Last edited by sabby; Nov 22, 2017 at 12:19 PM.. Reason: Administrative Edit |
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Nov 17, 2017 at 02:25 PM
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I'm late to the party. My husband is morbidly obese. His mom constantly talks about him loosing weight. His sister and cousin talk about him getting surgery. I don't think they relies that they talk about it a lot. I mean they can't stop and then they feed him far more then he eats at home. He knows he's over weight and needs to lose weight and is slowly trying but he eats and drinks a lot because he's always hungry.
If I could talk to his mom without judgement I'd tell her (and do tell her) to back off she's telling him I don't love you unless you're smaller and I know that's not true but that's the vibe she gives. __________________ Dx: Me- SzA Husband- Bipolar 1 Daughter- mood disorder+ Comfortable broken and happy "So I don't know why I'm tongue tied At the wrong time when I need this."- P!nk My blog |
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Nov 17, 2017 at 02:49 PM
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Google ghrelin, it might help
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