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Location: Marysville, PA
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My boyfriend has two boys, 5 & 7. Their mother
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There's also a problem because his parents aren't meeting what we would consider to be basic needs for the boys. Their average meals in a day are typically a granola bar for breakfast, a granola bar for lunch, and a frozen pizza for dinner. They don't push healthy eating habits on them because they said they tried but it didn't work so they just don't even really try anymore. They've even told me that they ate cookies for breakfast one day. On top of that they keep the water turned off to the bathroom the majority of the time because of a leak they haven't fixed in years. So typically the toilet is filled with feces and urine throughout the day. Also, they don't have a proper kitchen because they started remodeling it a few years ago and then stopped. Now they use a toaster oven in the basement. My bf's mother doesn't work due to Chronic Fatigue Syndrome so she doesn't keep up with the cleaning and because she doesn't work, my bf's dad has to work all the time. Therefore my bf's mom is the primary caretaker for the boys. When we addressed even just the food situation with her and how the youngest wouldn't eat anything we make she told us and him that he should just be able to ask us for what he wants and we should make it for him. We have zero support from his parents on anything we try to do. When it comes down to it I feel like we are just free babysitters. We are having no impact on the youngest and he doesn't even like coming over unless he can get his way the whole time. So now my bf is at the point that his youngest will no longer be allowed to come over until his parents get him into therapy. We feel like we've been pushed into a corner. Later today my bf will be calling his dad to tell him. We're fully expecting them to say that he can't see the boys at all then as a punishment to us for pushing back. Please help. I feel like I'm going insane. I come from a very different family where there is more open communication and traditional family values when it comes to raising children. I tried putting this on a different site and unfortunately I realized that no one has been active in a year so I'm hoping that I have better luck here. Last edited by bluekoi; Jan 15, 2020 at 12:59 AM.. Reason: Add trigger icon. Apply trigger code. |
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