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Default Apr 10, 2022 at 12:13 AM
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I have twin adult daughters, both currently living at home. I believe that both daughters were raised with equal love and care, with both daughters being given equal opportunities in life. However, one daughter has ‘magical memories’ of her childhood, remembering happy times with birthday parties, family outings, friendships, a comfortable home etc. The other daughter’s memories are entirely the opposite, with no happiness, no fond memories, and an overwhelming belief that she was treated differently to her twin sister. This belief that she was treated differently and unfairly, is impacting on this daughter’s ability to interact with other family members and causing considerable conflict. I’m looking for some insights as to why twins should have such contrasting memories of their childhoods, and possible ways of addressing the conflicts arising from this situation.
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Default Apr 17, 2022 at 05:15 PM
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Hey, Lamplight, and welcome to My Support Forums. I am an identical twin, now grown. I can tell you that our childhood emotional experiences were somewhat different. (My mother says she took me to look after since I was the smaller. On the other hand, as I got older, she admitted in retrospect that she treated me as a scapegoat.)

Twins differ in personalities, too, and that affects how we're treated. Yes, we were both given the same overall experiences, but in subtle ways we were treated differently, too.

Has your disgruntled daughter been willing to go into detail about how she thinks she was mistreated? Specific instances, things said, attitudes?

You mention friendships. Did they have different friends?

Maybe asking her to talk to you about things could help. Show her you care and feel bad that she views her childhood negatively. (Don't make her feel guilty , though, for being honest.) What did she perceive as differences in how she was treated? Perhaps a sincere apology is due, although she might say that it's too little, too late. But I hope not.

By the way, are your daughters emotionally stable or do they have issues that need to be addressed such as jealousy, anger, strong need for attention? And how old are they?

I hope I can be of help......

Sorry I was slow to answer. I hope you haven't given up on us.
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