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Mar 07, 2008 at 01:57 AM
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Hey all, just looking for some ideas on how to help my sister. She's 18 and pregnant. Her boyfriend don't know how to raise a kid and yet I htink he's going to have to....How do I help/ support her and still be an emotional support for my parents
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Mar 07, 2008 at 08:10 AM
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is your parents gong to support your daughter, is she going to move in with her boyfriend to a place of there own,
just be there for her offer some help but dont tell her shes doing things wrong sugest ways to do things diferant, encourage her to get ready by asking what she think she needs and sugesting some ways to get stuff, this a link for freecycle find the one in your area http://uk.groups.yahoo.com/search?query=freecycle lots of mothering instincts come as baby is born wish you all best wishes __________________  No kind action ever stops with itself. One kind action leads to another. Good example is followed. A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves.
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Mar 07, 2008 at 09:58 AM
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I'm guessing that something is not working well for your sister ?? That is making you concerned that she will not be capable of caring for a child ? Will she have a safe place to live before and after the child arrives ?? How about medical care.
I think it is really great that you want to support her during this critical life changing event she about to experience. She is probably going to need all the help she can get. Plus - you will have the opportunity to be an "Aunt" and thus an important caring adult in the life of a child. Perhaps you can research on her behalf any local agencies serving young women who are in her situation. Perhaps you could drive her to appointments and just be there to help. best of luck |
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Mar 08, 2008 at 10:01 AM
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Perhaps as a researcher, you could help. Look for programs in teh community that you think might help them. Does your community or hospitals offer parenting programs for first timers? You might want to fully partake in raising teh child and she may not want it. There could be many scenarios. The best is open communication with your sister to establish her strongest needs and prioritize them in perhaps a plan she can follow in preparation for parenting responsibilities.
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Grand Magnate
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Mar 09, 2008 at 01:00 AM
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I would be supportive and do the research on services as mentioned above. It is also important to let her know adoption is an option. I wonder if she can speak with woman counselors by phone and figure out that dear dad is a kid without the guts to raise a child. There usually are a lot of services for people in her situation. It would be good to make a list of local resources for her. Nice thinking and advise already.
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Mar 09, 2008 at 02:41 AM
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Just simply offering "support" will move mountains. My sis had a baby at 18 and even took a class in highschool for parenting but it didnt help one bit.
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Mar 10, 2008 at 03:02 PM
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Being there for your sister as you would for any other event in her life is the best support you can offer to her and the father to be....... And please know that parenting is a process that is learned as one goes thru it - improving with each child that is born and over time..
Offer Guidance and Love as NEEDED. Read Parenting Books - and Learn. |
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Mar 12, 2008 at 08:33 PM
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Always stick by family
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