when do parents stop worrying

well kids are a parents reason to moan and worry i know

today i let 16 half year old son go out on his bike to meet friends with phone, he leaves school in may and goes to collage in sept

we live in the middle of two towns well ones classed as a city so there is a main road conecting the two
he cycled into town a coz thats were his friends were meant to meet him

coz they never showed he meet another friend and ended up riding a cycle trail through woods (no phone sygnal) it was gone 5 annd no word so me being a parent decided that i would take daughters b/f home and look for son grrrrrrrrr something i didnt want to keep doing grrrrrrrrrrr

just my rant

im 37 and my mom still calls me to tell me when bad weather is approaching....

I dont mind....I kinda like it

When we die...and I can't be 100% sure about that...

IMHO.

Lenny

I agree Lenny.

My 12-year old daughter asks me occasionally "Mom, when you die (cause I am so very old, LOL), are you coming back to haunt us?"

I think the words parent and worry are synonymous, don't you

Never?!

Worrying just means you love them. It's a good thing....right?!

If you didn't care, you, well...wouldn't care

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I think the words parent and worry are synonymous, don't you

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Very much so mybestkids2...and at some point if we have done our work well,,,they will worry about us...

Lenny

my daughter will be 35 in August. I worry very much about her. My son just turned 31 and I worry about him too. they are both grown and married. I don't think we ever stop worrying.

NEVER! - we just learn to let go little by little.

Hey I don't think parents will ever stop worrying. Its a parents nature to worry about the person they brought into this world. I dont think there is anything wrong with that,.

I asked my mother this very question. Her response “never”. As each of my kids have reached a milestone, driving, graduating, etc I asked my mother how she kept her sanity.

My daughter moved further north for college. They get many times the amount of snow up there than we do here. We’re close enough that I get her weather on my local news (about 3 hours away) and I call her every storm and say park the car, stay home, and call me before bed. Does she listen to me? Probably night, but once I get that call saying good night I feel better, no matter how late it is. A cell phone is a must. When she stepped on hers last week, I had to run up there with a new one, I just can't be out of touch with her for that long.

FYI I still have to call my mother when I'm travelling to tell her that I've arrived at my destination and I'm safe and sound.

little kids little problems
big kids big problems.

My son went out for 36 hours
and he's schizophrenic...
his friends dont really understand
and I worry what will they get into
together.....
My eldest son told me how he wanted to
die inside a compactor,,,,,,worry worry worry
i will probably die first because of
worry.........
luv to all worried parents out there we
have empathy....
(((((Katheryn)))))))

my son is 9yrs & wants to play out on his cause all his friends do but we will not let him & his younger brother out on there own are but we get all are friends can all the time they are to young in are eyes to be out there but you get kids as young as 3yrs out on there own in are village which is wrong i dont think that I will ever stop worrying about them

I have to agree that the problems get bigger as the children get older. I long for the time that my biggest worry for them was whether or not they ate enough veggies that day, brushed their teeth properly or if they completed all of their homework. Those were the good old days.

i have no experience in parenting since im still a kid myself but personally, i beleive if ur a parent and u really care about ur child then u never stop worrying. it shows how much u care for and love them. im schizophernic myself so i know how u might feel. my parents worry about me all the time. but the overall problems may depend on the child itself bc personally, as i've grown older, i've been less and less probmatic to my parents. now a days, they no lonnger hav to really watch me are worry about me. i try to solve most of my problems myelf to eliminate the most problems i can from my parents bc thats just how i am. my brothers on theother hand are less respectiful if u wanna use that word. they really dont seem to care if they cause problems for my mom and dad, so thats why i say it depends on the kid. hard to explain but like i said before. if u really love him and care for him then its normal to worry about him. hope that helps. best of luck.

My 19 year old daughter stayed out at her b'f mum the other night and at 4am i woke to find her not home .... she's never ever stayed out without calling .... so i called her mobile and she was safe obviously, but i felt sick with worry when her bed was empty ..... she is going to uni in sept .... i will worry every day .... i think i'll worry about both of them (son 16) until the day i die ...... i can't help it

Jinny xoxoxoxoxo

My daughter did not call last night to say she wouldn't be home. This is the first time she's done so and I'm going to kill her when she gets home! Even at college last year she called everynight before bed.

I friend of hers hates being alone and parents are out of town. Friend slept here the night before. Just because she's an adult doesn't mean that she's permitted bad manners! Her cell is going right to voice mail so that's dead I'm sure, but she could have called from a friends phone!

In about six hours my 18 year old bipolar daughter will be homeless again. I am so sick with worry that I bought a pack of cigarettes and smoked 2 yesterday and I have not smoked in 25 years. I have a big knot in my stomach and have been crying all day. No one can handle her and everyone has tried. I hope I worry myself into a coma. I don't see any escape from this pain and constant worry.
Any help out there?

((Katheryn, Cloz))

We never stop worrying. I am mothering 3 boys, 26, 22, 14. I worry the most about the oldest.

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I don't see any escape from this pain and constant worry.
Any help out there?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Do you have any support? Can you go to therapy for yourself. It is the only thing that has allowed me to live.

never..my oldest one is 22 and i still worry even when she drives home from school in rain...

Well she came home safe and sound, apparently left a message with one of her brothers that couldn't be bothered to let us know. Grrrr.

Clozmama,

Why will your daughter be homeless? Is she unable to come home?

It is helpful for me to read this thread, at this difficult time for me worrying about my daughter, who is 30, married, with a wonderful husband, sweet 6 year old twin boys. I have been so happy for her, as she had eloped upon graduating from high school with a boy I didn't even know, who was alcoholic, drug dealer and addict, abusive. She got away from him before she graduated college, and married her now husband. I have been so grateful that she managed to find happiness and stability.
Now...they have taken teaching jobs in Turkmenistan...a Muslim country, very underdeveloped. The US embassy information clearly states that terrorist groups such as Al Quaida are active there, make no differentiation between military and civilian targets, and focus on "soft" targets such as schools. Daughter and her husband are chasing the almighty dollar. Surely they know these dangers. Talking to her does no good. I've made myself sick about it, physically ill, also feeling waves of grief, which are only alleviated by prayer.

Parents never stop worrying. It's hard for me to be around coworkers and friends who talk about their adult children, grandchildren, spending time with them, having them nearby! I found a book online...the whole book is generously posted there. It's entitled "Letting Go of Your Adult Child." Reading that was helpful!

Love
Patty

AMEN!!