Welcomed a New Child into my home

I'm happy and greatly relieved that he is here safe with me.

It's been a huge struggle. He's quite a handful. He lacks discipline and his behavior is different then that of my own children. It's taking me a minute to adjust to his needs, but I believe with time I will adapt to him and he will with us. He's my two year old nephew, an absolutely gorgeous child. He so starved for maternal contact that he clings to me all day. Sometimes I have to put him down to smush playdo in my carpet so I can hold my own babies too. They have a lot of adjustments to make as well, sharing mommy and daddy and all their things. I feel badly for them, but then again I think this experience will in still good values....to be considerate, loving, extending themselves to help the ones they love, and sacrificing for others. One day they'll realize this....we've been talking about it a lot. I try to devote alone time with them together and one at time.

I quit my job to stay home and devote myself to being a mother...more now then ever before since there's another child involved. I now care for a 2,3,and 4 year old. I'm considering taking children behavior courses so I can understand them better.

My husband has lovingly accepted my nephew in, he makes sure to hug and kiss him like he does his own babies. He gets weirded out when my EJ (nephew) calls him dada....but so far it's the only word I've heard him say since his been here. We have alot to teach him, a brand new slate it seems.

Financially we had a miracle...sometimes luck spurts on me, and for this I am truly grateful for. I checked the mail a few days ago and inside was a 1,000 dollar check for my husband from his ex job. They had paid him for all his paid vacation and personal days. Now we are caught up on everything accept a few minor things like cable...but it's looking much better now.

I will need support. Already I am tired....but lovingly accepting too. I feel as though I had given life again or something. The weight of all my worried had been lifted off my shoulders....the worries involving the safety of my baby nephew.



Not intentionally trying to end in a crappy note but what happened....meaning how I got him, was I gave my sister two hundred dollars to go back to DC...I offered to take EJ and she didn't dispute it. I told her to come back when she's ready to show me her original self, the sister I've always knew. Hopefully this circumstance will give her an incentive to get her %#@&#! together.

Congratulations!!

And that is so incredible that you would take on such a huge responsibility. Very honorable.

you seem to be doing whats write for your nephew that sounds brilliant
i hope your sister will sort her self out before she losses those preciaus years from her son

How wonderful that you were able to take the baby in. Even if the situation is temperary I would get it legalized just in case the child needs medical attention.

I am happy you finally got him! do it legal though hon so you can get at least medical for him. Did your hubby find another job yet? It sounds like this little one needs so much love and you and hubby are giving it to him! woo hoo!

Yeah, he's been working now for awhile.

I'm happy he's here safe with me, but he has behavioral issues and I'm not exactly sure how to handle them. Some days I ask myself what did I get myself into. It's been hardcore.

He still doesn't speak either. I heard him say, "I broke it" but that's all I've heard.

Luckily Mom's been taking him over the weekends to help, but she doesn't reinforce him and doesn't take the time or energy to try to teach him things....like talking for example.

It'll get better once he realizes that I won't let him be a hell yun' without some major time out time.