Healthy Parenting Resources

Hi folks,

I'd like to introduce this thread as a spot to post your favorite resources regarding parenting!

Anything you have found of value may be posted here via links to the sites, or by posting the names of books for example. Feel free to leave a personal review, or simply post the link or info for others to view.

I'd like to take a moment to remind everyone that these resources will be coming from all of us, so what works for one may not work for another. I suggest you take what you like out of it and what you don't discard and move on to the next resource.

I hope we see lots of resources!

http://kidshealth.org/
Has links for parents, but also for kids and teens.

Today the member ECHOES said the following:

I just got this book and I love it, even only a few pages into it:
"Nurture the Nature" by Michael Gurian, a family therapist. It covers birth through 19 years and older, and encourages parents to really understand their child's/children's core personality.

Just wanted to add this to the resources!

One i would like to add would be www.babycenter.com

You can get information on everything from trying to conceive right through childhood!

http://www.commonsensemedia.org/

This website has reviews for all sorts of videogames, movies, books, etc. and information about what ones are age-apropriate for your kids.

An article about spanking that will make you think:

http://www.slate.com/id/2200450/pagenum/all/#page_start

Thanks for all the suggestion everyone. Have you all seen http://www.uncommon-parenting.com/ (by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller) - it's seems quite new and it's interesting.

http://www.keepkidshealthy.com/paren...ips/index.html

This site seems to address a lot of issues and has a lot of information.

I wanted recommend the book titled, Five Love Languages by: Gary Chapman.

Everyone has a certain way that they feel most love. In this book, it identifies five love languages to truly satisfy another individual's love language. (even your child's main love language.) It also will include a fun quiz to identitify the individual's main love language. Please do enjoy! Let me know what you think.

Thanks for all the suggestion everyone.

Since I'm mom to a preschooler, I would like to add some preschool resources to this list. There is a website called AtoZTeacherStuff which is loaded with ideas for fun activities for young kids. Another one I like are these preschool games which my son loves playing.. he learns from them without realizing the fact that he's doing so! Then there's another site that goes by the name of First-School which helps me build up and plan my homeschooling lesson plans. Right from colors, shapes and seasons, to arts and crafts as well as other educational stuff, this one is a must-visit website.

Bully by none other than the g.o.a.t. aka Marshall Mathers.

(Who's Suge and Benzino? That'd be a dumb question to ask, parents, you the fact, you the resources, if you got nothing to show for, you'll be throwing your kids into the shark infested waters, as far as I'm concerned, a kid growing up to be a man with 100,000 dollars on his neck with no bodyguard is a great success in life, don't listen to me, ey. )

FightTheNewDrug.org

My country's Playboy wasn't as tasteful as Camille Paglia said it was like in the states, I don't know what it was like back in the 80s in my home country, there was an anti violent anime thing when I was little, my mother banned all the manga stuff. She wasn't a bright woman, a stay-at-home-mom, me and my brother got no Nintendo either. My brother was hiding this slightly naughty manga in the shed, there were couple of other distasteful adult picture books, how do I know that it was distasteful? That's a good question, I just knew. There was this other time when my dad and his friend was watching some VHS tapes, thinking that I was too little to care for 'women being tied up' in this period drama porn video,,,



And if you must know, my dad once caught me while I was doing the business, at least I wasn't doing it to an apple pie. I also remember my dad's gaze at my cousin, the most messed up things about this sexuality is the general idea of Japanese women, who allows their men's groping eyes or sometimes hands on another woman in a marital relationship, some online Q&A instructs poor wife to be a 'Japanese Wife' and those Senpai ladies want newly married clueless ladies to give oral or whatever, it's all weird. Have you ever heard of a thing called Daki-makura(hugging pillow)? I just want anyone with kids who's into Japanese stuff to be really really careful, google algorithm isn't always healthy for child brains, 50% of Russian young population is already at risk by this weeaboo stuff, if Adolf Hitler couldn't figure out this culture, but sided with Japanese Imperial Army back in the days,,, my point is that things this hard to figure out doesn't have any educational value, trying hard to claim 'I'm not a weeaboo' doesn't wash. Video games, J-pop music, it's all mind numbingly bad for human development, it's just my personal opinion.

And there's an old painting called 'The Dream of the Fisherman's Wife' done by a great artist named Hokusai. So if your kids are into animes... These art is about taboo, Camille says, mayhaps, but only in the West. The sex-ed at home and school, mine wasn't healthy nor informed. I understand that it's not easy to implement political policies state/country wide, it was sad to find out Iceland wasn't doing as great as I thought they were doing about banning porn, and I've found the linked website.

I'm a boy so my education should've started with Michelangelo's statue of David. I've read only few stories from the FTND website, it looks convincing enough, it doesn't take words like 'rape culture' or the exact percentage of violence depicted in porn to know what a guy's mind go through, my suggested links offers different talking points.

Sorry to end this with more dirty thing, Japanese porn does this censoring by 'ethical committee' of some sorts, prostitution is illegal and school offers this uniform sex-ed program. People simply operate on different parameters but there may be something you could learn from. This is a country where a dress code is really strict, you don't see too many sexy outfit, it's just too much to explain, Hollywood has been obsessed with big boobs, we talk about pay grades, I just wanted to think about fakeness and 'alternative facts' tonight.

I don't know what the 'by-the-book' education is like, if you're from the states, that means you live in a country where citizens are allowed to do free schooling. The media may tell you that the country is lagging behind in education, kids misbehaving at school etc... There are liberty, choices and responsibilities. No one's drowning in privileges when it comes to parenting/education, does this sound about right to you?

'To Junior High, High School Students & Their Parents' by Jordan B Peterson

It's another New Year message guys, I haven't watched it yet, he looks so serious. This year, he dressed up for this occasion, I love the man, I'm sure he has an important message for everyone. I believe from my personal experience that learning about human rights as early as possible through proper educational materials are crucial for everyone's mental health and future of mankind.

'Bill of Rights Rap' by Shoeless Jeff and Scott Free

This was great and made me feel sad thinking about my country's constitution... *fake smile*

I've just finished watching the video,whoa, shocking! I'm kinda speechless, Professor Rinaldo Walcott reminded me of this young student who was attacking on Ben Shapiro's credentials in one of videos from some time ago, that was fun to watch but not this New Year message. Juvenile, and it's a will to power in the organizational structure, it's a shame that we need to ask our children to help clean up this mess...

Even though I'm childless and wifeless, this video asks me of a big moral responsibility with this information, I just hope as many people as possible to realize his life work before we lose any more freedom. I wasn't expecting this radicalization, I wonder what future psychologists would have to say about this time period.

Braving the rights does NOT right the world... A, B or C, none fits the trajectory, I'd say. Unreal.

'John Dewey's Philosophy of Education'

I'm not too familiar with it, but i like it. It's not too politicized as long as we think of it from academic angle, I've seen talks like 'is this progressive education working?' type of talk on youtube. My own parent's involvement in PTA was a joke, I hope y'all don't make the same mistakes, always do your due diligence. A big centralized state education system can make everyone go mad, that's the feel I get in my country and I wouldn't know what the underlying education philosophy really is based on..........

There're some more that I could say about my country. Ethnocentricism, I think the idea has always been around, and school kid suicide or bullying hasn't been solved, you could just say it's because of tribalism, these things are embedded in this man made/manufactured culture of mine. So if you saw the video, the radical and dangerous ideologies would give students and faculties ammunition to fight each other, Judeo-Christian nation should know better how wrong this picking-on-what-stands-out attitude is, and there are other related things that I like to mention, JPB used the word 'English Common Law', which my country doesn't have in our judicial system. Higher up in this court system, head judges are not supreme, they probably don't even know that they could overturn their own opinions, a few years ago, my government made this spineless/useless 'anti hate speech' law, there were no intelligent thought put into it, can anyone guess this analogy that I'm trying to draw here? I don't think anyone should be living under the laws that gives too much discretionary power to someone who could abuse it. The foundation of a great society is at stake, we're free to take a break but not indefinitely, being a natural-born-thinker that's what being conscious is about, best of luck!

So, what resource am I recommending here today? You guessed it, this will be a crazy man's social commentary just like yesterday. I think I didn't sleep because of the video on post #14. I got out of bed upset, was watching this crying little boy this morning at this apartment complex across my building, it houses bunch of middle class people I suppose, and he and his mom was driving off to somewhere, the mom looked care-free, the boy stopped nagging when mom was minding her own business, I thought it was excellent way to deal with little boy like that. 'Excellence', this human quality needs to be nurtured and noted on any social strata, we get to set things apart for right reasons, and if we don't have a point in arguing about them, we don't. And when we do, I believe it's best to use dialectic method to discuss and debate things with people.

The boy that I mentioned in previous paragraph probably is in the age between 2-4, it is a crucial stage in child development, or so I'm informed. It's all Piagetrian when I talk pseudointellectually about raising children and I think it's fine, there's always someone smarter than I, someone else's already taken so the lesson that my imaginary kids need to learn from me would be to do their own thinking, and have their own opinions, it is self-evident that people lead a miserable life if one choose to live by voicing someone else's opinion all the time, I'm sorry I kinda forgot what was upsetting me this morning.

Ohio-gozaimasu, this is Good Morning in translated Japanese, what this means is that when somebody asks how I say good morning in my mother tongue(*gag reflex* because I hate my real mother.), I could just answer that 'Well, I don't!'. All smiling, all American Ann Coulter, she would be my perfect mother... These greetings are the same thing as someone being upset for not being asked how they are, parents should teach things, the states shouldn't be compelling moral codes!

Thanks for reading.

'Picard's civil rights speech' @youtube

Metapsychology and applied human chemistry would go nicely with this teaching material. It's not diplomacy when you kids are small, remember/talk/imagine the first contact.

Ben Shapiro trashes John Lennon's "Imagine"

This is quite something. The song was okay for learning the very basic of English language at first, I admit I used to like it. Now I feel this commentary is just priceless.

"Harrison Bergeron" by Kurt Vonnegut

I need to take the time to study this more, if school don't give your child the opportunity to read this, maybe parents can help learn this at home.

Ben Shapiro on Gay Marriage, Gun Control, and Piers Morgan by The Rubin Report

This is a superb interview, I agree with Mr.Shapiro almost 100%. Even the view on mentally ill population is probably fact based, I believe he speaks accurate history on most points. I do care about 'duty of care' in legal system, but not much else. At this point, my understanding of legal system could use a lot more education, 'Miss-ed' education or politics have been wreaking havoc everywhere! I'm just kiddin. (The video includes MH stigma alright, my personal take is that to argue on the existence of stigma is not productive. This gets awfully complicated with composition or division fallacies, I'm aware of the role of my emotions within my intellect, I'm getting better at things without arguing, smart, ha?)

We established this system before we became,,,irritable/stupid, get your desire when I retire.

Ben Shapiro - HOW SOCIAL LIBERALISM IS CORRUPTING OUR FUTURE
Jordan Peterson — How Pornography Affects on Young Men

These are very short video clips, the Peterson's piece is from my favorite interview, it's again from The Rubin Report. I didn't know the host was an atheist till I saw the interview on the first one. I would love to have a reasonable argument ready for my anti-porn stance one of these days...

Ben Shapiro: "I Don't Need A 7-Year Degree In Sociology To Know BS When I Hear It by The Daily Wire"

Sociology is not my favorite subject to learn about but to stop too much fallacious arguments in the world, I know I need to know more about it. What I take out of this video is people's blind trust in 'credentials', I don't believe everything what American Sleep Association tells us, d'you get what I mean? I'm past sarcasm, I wouldn't know what my decision/advice would be if I had a children going on to higher education. 'Peer' matters, talents could get killed by wrong thinking, sorry that I'm being cryptic here, it's just rambling...

Editing Again :
Having an extramarital affair like Pennsylvania Rep. Tim Murphy admitted last year is bad, this reminds me of talk during election season where moms were tweeting saying, "How do I explain that Trump is now our president to our kids?". Now that I think about it, that's so silly that tweets like that have any significance at all.

"Jordan Peterson on Virtue Signaling"
"This Male virtue signalling makes me sick - Jordan Peterson"

The editing is not right on the first video and no bloody joke, I need to sort myself out. I was just thinking that virtue signaling is nothing new, I remember clearly how this cultural virtue was affecting me in the class room when I was little, and the worst outcome I can think of from my culture is Karōshi (overwork death). The buzzword isn't doing justice for the interview clips but I still find this VS when I accidentally click on overly left leaning youtube channels.

Male, female, both have been guilty of this, and any type of social media or electronic communication could be used for an outlet for such small dragons, it might add up though. Am I thinking of virtue? I can't be certain since I don't have Christian background, I been noticing anti-naturalism, danger of danger, folks. Some TED(x) talks videos are full of virtue signaling, I hope you or your kids aren't falling for those...

This collective unconsciousness that I been put through has probably been fueled by this postmodernism evilness, 'Small Ideas, and Big Think ', situation critical, I don't think there's no need to be afraid of Freudian theories, I would be learning and teaching GOOD stuff to kids, sound theories and inferences need no morals, I recommend kids and parents to watch 'virtue theory' on crash course philosophy on youtube, I don't understand why it had so many up votes.

All is flux, nothing is stationary.

"Jordan B. Peterson on 12 Rules for Life" by How to: Academy

I've watched only a part of this video, he mentions 'collective unconscious'. He looks so captivating on stage, if you are a type of parent who watches too much reality tv shows, I think it's time you throw away your flat screen tv for your descendants and be the best lobster that you can be, starting today.

Postmodernism @RationalWiki

It's different from reading HuffPost articles, isn't it?

I don't understand the half of it at this point but I get the general ideas. For the lack of a better word, I say I go with my guts and think some stuff on this notion of things being postmodernism (left)... I don't know, man, I'm indirectly sceptical and critical on people in general, please use your own rational judgments when you think of the stories that I'll be telling you here.

The first story comes from this vague memory I have about this thyroid doctor from England, she does orthomolecular medicine too, and she got her medical licence suspended. The psychopathology of mental illnesses are unknown, I don't remember reading this doctor harming anyone, so the medically and politically opposing parties may have been taught bad philosophy of science during their careers, it may very well have been the case of good ole medical community political conflicts.

I strongly believe that Bio-psychiatry is a folk science, so my feeling is like wtf?? I suspect a slight postmodernism line of thought from this incident. The last time I heard about the doctor, her licence was reinstated. I think we could find postmodernism anywhere if we look into things deep enough.

On an additional note, think of someone talking about 'Mental Health Inc.', and someone immediately jumps on and tells "It doesn't exist!". Back and forth like this is again, I suspect it roots back to something in the postmodern era. It's incorrect on multiple levels, the substance of a claim, metaphor or analogy must be weighed and analyzed carefully before it gets tossed out, I ask of you parents, please don't corrupt the young minds, I know I could be charged with the same crime though.

Presumption of innocence
ei incumbit probatio qui dicit, non qui negat (the burden of proof is on the one who declares, not on one who denies)

I know this is unrelated to postmodernism but the concept is very important to me since Japanese Justice system completely disregards this. Some Western visitors to my country have been naughty when they claim racism, and the country has been attractive to left wing nuts for some reasons. (It was a French woman, lol.) Please, heed my warning from previous post about my country of origin.

So, without being too pedagogical and stuff, we understand that this new paradigm of epistemology has something to do with this whole topic called postmodernism, it's about "How do you know what you claim to know?". At the same time, life necessitates that we presume certain things. You got the toughest job, not because the kids of yours are difficult but the environment, the various value systems are presumed and we are living in it. If I were a parent(), my kids won't be playing with monism kids, because our reality and the way it's been set up is predicated upon the condition of people believing in this external world, this is the moment I'd go, "I'd do anything, I mean ANYTHING to protect my kid.".


The second story is a little example in the form of hypothetical conversation.

Lady A: "I always fall for an unavailable man. What should I do?"
Lady B: "Leave him at once, he's unfaithful, he will one day leave you. "

If I were to truly support the Lady A from mental health perspective, I would point out and correct her illogical way she understands,,,l-o-v-e, sorry for saying this but it's just s-l-u-t, I would teach my kids about this, ykwis? I would begin by teaching types of love that they can explore,,, I'm thinking about 'story telling' bonding time, there were no tradition like that when I was little.

Anyways, the fake conversation was a result of a confused thinking at the time of the question being asked, and the misuse of relationship concept between man and woman. I shan't say no more.

Fashionable Nonsense: Postmodern Intellectuals' Abuse of Science @wikipedia

So, to conclude this messy post, it feels all post-blah-blah-blah, and it's not all bad. I just want the readers to know the real science matters, I'd like to keep my memory in the brain to be in a good shape, reading stuff like these forces us to theorize better tomorrow and forever.

Digital Descartes by LOSTBOYEVSKY

It's a song about today's kids on social medias. A psychologist, Dr.Peterson says it's important that we let the kids do what they want to do, I trust his expertise as someone who reads a lot of brain scientific stuff, including many of our evolutionary theories as species and this is just scratching the surface.

I was watching Dr.Viktor Emil Frankl's short video clip from his lecture while he was alive last night, and wondered if this 'crabbing technique' metaphor from aviation is something that needs to be taught or not. We can't lose the sight/position/disposition of this mountain, which could be Maslow's or Camus's for me, and Jean Piaget's theory is something we could use to prepare our kids for the future.

I don't know what the point of my thoughts are right now,,,

What would you say your guiding principles when it comes to parenting? I was having this tiny fantasizing few days ago, just to see and understand what it'd be like to adapt a children, and I used to hate when my parents acted like they own my body, because we are related. Confirming or legitimizing one's own feeling without any sort of feedback is criminal.

Kids are exposed to our human history, and the little we learn from medias and in school curriculum contains evil-minded incidents, I personally prefer synchronic understandings on parts of the history, and when I think of a whole and 'Here and Now' together with what I know, I can not be afraid to be inconsistent.

I'm not that good to be able to author my words anyways, but I feel that I'm getting close to the truth when I pay attention to things. Distinguishing what is tragic from what is evil is a very basic kickstarter that could be useful in kids' life. I'm just telling what I wished were taught to me. Please try to be your own guide with your SO if you have one, I don't see any other way, man.

Edited to Add:
There are things that we normally consider juvenile, or infantilizing in today's society, good or bad maybe we could think this as something close to gentrification of property development, affordable housings not being built (, being opposed by rich a-holes), there are things that concerns us all and we do analyzing as they are happening. You may not think it, but I'm thinking learning about 'Political or Social' SCIENCE! too might help in good parenting maneuvering.

Rule 5 Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them
Rule 12 Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street

I was misremembering the rule No.5 somewhere in my post, so I checked up on it in this 3 hrs 'The Rubin Report' interview from last November. The explanation of the rule 5 begins with below quotation.


ABRAHAMIC RELIGION BLUES by LOSTBOYEVSKY

Here's the book list recommend by the artist.
12 Books That Destroyed and Rebuilt My Mind

HighExistence | Challenging The Way You Live!

You go Google "Healthy Parenting" and can you find what you like? The thought of dumb and lazy parent medicating our children with ADHD drugs came across my mind yesterday. I've read too many stories of kids ruined by their parents, I don't know how to get out of this dark-emo-kid state of mind right now.

You need 'Love' for parenting, what a joke. "Healthy" parenting sounds like just a feel good thing not taking into account the big sacrificing part of being a caretaker to a human life. Parenting needs to given ethical consideration, and it's certainly not a duty or an obligation of citizens to make tax paying offsprings as I understand the constitution.

The trend of medicalizing kids behavior from poor psychological standpoint needs to end. For regular folks, 'good-enough' parenting is pathetic, it has to be good. For parental personality disorders, it seems almost impossible for someone to monitor this 'good-enough' parenting skills. The abuse does seem to repeat itself in some cases, if we as a society cares for abuse victims, the same protection of human rights shall applied to little defenseless children as well.

Good Morning! I don't know why I can't stop posting here. This healthy discussion/conversation inside of my uneducated brain doesn't worry if I'm a parent or not, one thing is for sure though, I'm no Oprah Winfrey.

I was at a HighExistence website again this morning, I'm new at this place and there was this 'most active discussion' displayed on the side of the screen. Check out 'Is ADHD ********?' talk, I followed up on this one comment 'ADHD revisited' by NeuroLogica, it's just so happens that my attention is not good so I couldn't read much of it. Does that mean my brain is disordered? It seems fine this morning, I don't need to read Arianna Huffington's book to know that I've had a good sleep.

This logical counter against scepticism on the Neurologica blog was quite interesting to read. Parents of today would be facing new generations of teachers and school administrators, I'm sure a lot depends on the policies of school districts, it's just my humble opinion that sending kids to school without first checking what the board of education is thinking about this main stream trend is an integral part of being a smart parent.

I don't know how to explain this but this big idea of 'scepticism' in general seems to differ a lot to the ones in my own culture, and dialogue between 2 sides, or between all available sides work again, differently. I say West(North America) does productive and meaningful, this makes me think of good and evil sides of efficiency.

Sam Harris, I was watching his TED talk from 2 yrs ago last night, I think there's nothing wrong with being impressed by charisma of certain people on our computer screens. He was talking about AI, and John von Neumann was mentioned in that talk.

Things being 'irrelevant' to certain people, I don't believe in such certainty. If you ever wondered if you're kids are smart or not, there are many pedestrian ways to convince one with truth/untruth, I don't think many of made up facts on the sidewalk are not so moral. Good vs Evil stories teach us about our intelligence, most people seem to know how to feel about children and their behaviors, the right/tru-ish way just might be the reverse...

Here's one rule from an Economist.
The emotional vantage point of mothers are illogical, and this of course is NOT my medical opinon.

"In real life, these taxpayer-supported parasites are inculcating students the precepts of the Socialist Party of America — as understood by retarded people."

― Ann Coulter, Godless