[Rhapsody]

Just wondering what time if any - do you set for your high school graduate or college child (that still lives at home) to be in at night?

[gimmeice]

I have not got to that stage yet but for me after I graduated my mom set a curfew of midnight and if I wasn't going to be home before that I was supposed to call and let her know where I would be. I think that setting a time that you are comfortable with but giving the option of being able to call and say hey I am staying at so and so's house is a good idea. This may also be something that you could discuss with your child and maybe you could both make the decision so everybody feels like they are a part of the decision making.

[Rhapsody]

Sounds like good advice.... you will make a great parent one day.

Sunday to Thursday in by nine thirty, anytime weekends as long as I know where you are going. Thats what I would do or rather what I would try to sway the conversation round to with my 18 plus school/college attending child.

Under that age then same time during the week but weekends as long as I know where they are then midnight.

Under fifteen then same during the week and weekend too however sleep overs are allowed as long as I speak to the parent of the other child.

[wanttoheal]

My children are 20 and 22. They have no curfew as they are adults. They call to let me know what's going on with them so I don't worry though. I have told them they don't have to let me know where they are, but as a mom, I need to know they are okay. It works out well for us and has lessened the stress on all of us.

[Rhapsody]

Originally Posted by wanttoheal

My children are 20 and 22. They have no curfew as they are adults. They call to let me know what's going on with them so I don't worry though. I have told them they don't have to let me know where they are, but as a mom, I need to know they are okay.

That's what I was thinking about.... but the age 18 has me wondering if a curfew needs to be set - say no later than 1:00 am or he calls.

We have a 24 year old son, but we did not have to deal with this issue with him because he went into the Navy right after high school... and by the time he came home he well past needing a curfew.

[bananasarecool]

ive gotta be in by 12 in summer or call them, 10 in winter at the latest and 9 on a school night. x

[AAAAA]

My adult kids are pretty responsible, they've never really had a curfew, but they've always asked if they can go... and let me know what time to expect them. My daughter is terrible about the on the way home thing sometimes. She'll call and say I'm on my way home, do you need anything? No. I know how long it takes for her to get home from where she is, but to her on my way home could mean "done shopping, going to stop to eat, drop friends off etc." and she'll be home an hour and a half later than she should, but we're working on it.