Worried about my sons

I have 6 and 10 year old boys. 10 year old was diagnosed as having autism he is also very violent when he gets angry. He does'nt live with us because he goes to a specail school in the next county so he stays with my granma. I visit him everyday and he stays with me on the weekends. He has come very attached to my granma. She is 71 she adores him and I am blessed she is helping me with him. But I am scared that when she passes he will have a total meltdown. She is in excellent health but it's gonna happen one day and he'll be devastated. My other son though is very withdrawn almost depressed. He's on Vyvanse for his ADHD. But he was like this before that. He's just quieter. He does'nt have any kids to play with other than his older brother which is very tense because my older son has been very violent towards my younger son since he was born. My 6 year old acts older. And the teachers at his school say he is a level above in both reading and math so they want to move him up a grade to "challenge" him more. He has always been my solem child ever since he was born. I am worried because when the time comes for my oldest to move home, I am afraid for the safety of my 6 year old. My 10 y/o is'nt violent until he don't get his way and then he takes it out on his brother. nd my youngest son is so so sad sometimes he does'nt like o go out side he likes to play chess and solitare on the computer. I have limited his comp. use to an hour a day to get him outside but he gets bored and his best friend is his cousin who is 13. I know this dose'nt make any sense but I have been worried about this for a while now. I just get so sad thinking about my kids sometimes.

It is natural for a parent to be concerned when a child is not doing well or when the entire family cannot be together.... I would suggest that you try your best to focus on the present and not the future as we do not know what it holds.... but we are in the here and now and that is all we have any control over.

Might I also suggest you look into obtaining some counseling for your younger son so he can better cope with the emotional trauma he has suffered due to the physical & mental health of his older brother.

I will be keeping your family in my prayers.