[coopaloop]

Hi,
I am new to this forum. I have spent the last few days reading people's posts, particularly the posts pertaining to HPD. I was clinically diagnosed with HPD awhile back. I hope that others will take into consideration that as with most disorders, there is a pendulum such that there is no one size fits all for any personality disorder. When I was younger (I am 31 now) I was very seductive and used my physical appearance to manipulate men and receive attention. I did some horrible hurtful things, especially to my exhusband. I guess I just wanted to say that therapy does help people suffering from this disorder if they are motivated to get better. I have been in therapy for a while, plus I am PhD student in clinical psych so it was in my face everyday and I could not ignore it, nor get away with it in my program. I am not saying I am better or worse than anyone else, as I have hurt many people very deeply and destroyed my 1st marriage. I just wanted to say that change can happen. I still hate criticism and desire a great deal of attention but I have channeled this into more appropriate activities. So don't give up hope, that is if you do want to change.
All the best

[HelpfulGuy50]

Originally Posted by coopaloop

Hi,
I am new to this forum. I have spent the last few days reading people's posts, particularly the posts pertaining to HPD. I was clinically diagnosed with HPD awhile back. I hope that others will take into consideration that as with most disorders, there is a pendulum such that there is no one size fits all for any personality disorder. When I was younger (I am 31 now) I was very seductive and used my physical appearance to manipulate men and receive attention. I did some horrible hurtful things, especially to my exhusband. I guess I just wanted to say that therapy does help people suffering from this disorder if they are motivated to get better. I have been in therapy for a while, plus I am PhD student in clinical psych so it was in my face everyday and I could not ignore it, nor get away with it in my program. I am not saying I am better or worse than anyone else, as I have hurt many people very deeply and destroyed my 1st marriage. I just wanted to say that change can happen. I still hate criticism and desire a great deal of attention but I have channeled this into more appropriate activities. So don't give up hope, that is if you do want to change.
All the best

Hello,
I’m also new to this forum. Glad to hear you are making progress in your life...
I’m coming to this forum from a slightly different angle in that I had a couple of very painful relationship with young women suffering from Histrionic PD. I was wondering if this might indicate that I am suffering from self defeating personality
Dis-order myself? I’m not sure if I should have started a new thread for this or not. I know I tend to be over helpful, a bit guiible and my self esteem is not that great, I don’t know if this would make me attractive to Women with HPD or if I’m just attracted to them?
All the best