Is there any good quatities of HPD I asked my hubby and he said this

I was inspired by a topic which analyzed the good parts of the HPD exs, their qualities.
It occured to me that I am now a better person, having gone through what I did, however scary it may sound. This includes everything - the honeymoon period, the good times,the plans, the devaluation, the pain, the humiliation, the whole package.

What I learned from my HPD :

- The social part. I was a pretty isolated individual, going out only within my restricted group. I found the fun part of meeting new people, new opportunities, going out into the wide world, as they say.

- Being a business shark, my HPD showed me how to do lists, plans, and overall improve my work. This is still work in progress for me

- I'm currently learning how to dress better because of her. I was a sportswear kind of guy, im now slowly moving towards smart casual area. I still need female help with my wardrobe but at least I'm getting there.

- Granted, peeking into the human psyche was somewhat of a hobby of mine, . One thing that kills me - and apparently many others - is not understanding wtf just happened. Reading all this was southing.

- I am now far more careful with people. Losing my innocence may not be a good thing, as I always regarded my naivity as a quality. The jury's still out on this one.

- My empathy level increased. I have hurt a fair amount of women in my life (not like this though) but I feel I will be more sympatethic in my r/s from now on. Funny thing is I remember, during our honeymoon, her ex called her like 40+ times a day, I always told her, talk to him, explain whats happening, dont leave him hanging. She wouldnt do it

- I actually enjoyed..courting her. Even when I knew I just humiliated myself, I enjoyed it, not because of the abuse, but I felt proud that I could give myself to that extent to another. I even quoted Chaucer to her :
"I lay my dreams at your feet. Step carefully, for you are stepping on my dreams."
She was wearing stilettos when she trampled them, but in the end that does not invalidate my effort.

- Perhaps the most important thing I learned was about myself. I did not think I had it in me to love someone so strongly. She activated those feelings in me, but they were there to begin with.
She opened another world for me, things will never be the same from now on. This is perhaps the most beneficial things she did to me - however unintentional it was.
It made me think, if I was so happy with the wrong woman, can you imagine how happy I will be with the right one?

So after all this..i still feel like hugging her, kissing her, slapping her face full-force, helping her.
But in the end, I think I just need to thank her for this all-inclusive experience.

Anyone else getting something good out of his/hers HPD?