[northwest37]

(second post)

Seeking advice/help for my sister and well me. So my well educated (MBA) older sister, of which my siblings and I refer to as “crazy” (honestly no longer funny, and never should have been) has finally, possibly, “lost it” (correct terminology eludes me). Over the last four years we have basically watched her health decline, mentally and physically. In those 4 years, she hasn’t been able to hold down a job and is now to the point where she isn’t even able to interview for a job (my feelings). Basically my parents have been supporting her in San Francisco. Over the years my approach has always been to avoid her and not engage. I love her to death but to get into a conversation with her is literally torture. Her ability to communicate functionally, fluidly, is for the most part gone. I’m not sure where to go with this… or how to start, lost on how to even help. Net/Net, she’s an alcoholic, at least I think she is, but you never/rarely see her drink, but her mannerisms, speech and movement suggest she is 5 sheets to the wind, like LOADED. She is consistently saying the most inappropriate things to people, without any regard to how it might sound, or how they might take it. One minute she could be walking, the next she could be skipping (like a little girl might) but most of the time stubbing (like she is walking on sand). She talks to things, objects – not like conversations, but will pick them up, and say things like “um”, “ok”, “well than”, “alright” and sometime laugh before setting them back down (she usually does this when she is alone in a room). Sometime she will respond to things, when no one has said anything. She often retells stories/conversations, and has a tendency to focus on the past. I guess it’s noteworthy to include she did have Stevens–Johnson syndrome, I think brought on an anti-seizure medication, oh and she is on a anti-seizure medication, I want to say Cepra (sp). To boot she has struggle with eating disorders, and I don’t think she is really eating much now… notice that whenever it is time to sit down to eat she cause some type of ruckus, and storms away. Basically, I can’t diagnose her, nor should I, but in just trying to read about stuff online, she has a lot of the “histrionic personality disorder” traits ~ combined with alcohol/eating issues. She has a boy friend, but I have the distinct feeling he isn’t going to be around much longer… Anyhow. I have to talk to my parents about her (again). I personally feel she needs to enter an impatient treatment center, preferably 90 days or longer. She is extremely intelligent, and in a way extremely manipulative… she has gone to therapist and I did get her to go to a couple AA meetings… but nothing has ever come of it and won’t sign the papers for me or my parents to talk directly to the therapist / psychologist, even though we are paying for it… in fact I don’t really know if she even goes… anyhow, at wits end, beating myself up for referring to her as my crazy sister, and at points even laughing at her, brother of the year . Just got home from a 10 day vacation home with her (around her) and my mind is blown, I’m physically and emotional dead, she is like a succubus. Any suggestions/advice will help.