[Chunchun〜♡]

The other day I was talking with a friend of mine about the guy I liked. I told her he'd started texting me less & less so she asked me what I had done. Not whether I had done or said something wrong. What I had done. Then she added with a sarcastic tone: 'It's never your fault, is it?'
It triggered me & I hated her so much for that, because I know that it's actually the opposite. Being an histrionic I lack empathy, therefore most of the time I am not aware of how my actions can affect others' feelings.

Having a mental illness & keeping it a secret can be really hard to me..
What are the things, situations or phrases that trigger you the most?

[bluekoi]

Chunchun〜♡, I'm sorry to hear this. I get very uncomfortable if people drink too much around me.

[CANDC]

Chunchun〜♡ I have a hard time imagining a friend saying 'It's never your fault, is it?' That lacks empathy and compassion at your sense of loss. Relationships are never that simple. People grow apart for many reasons. Maybe you should identify people that do not put triggers out there to be your friends.
Plus once someone like that does push your button, be careful about giving them the power to do that again by selectively telling them what is not going to make you vulnerable.

[Chunchun〜♡]

Originally Posted by CANDC

Chunchun〜♡ I have a hard time imagining a friend saying 'It's never your fault, is it?' That lacks empathy and compassion at your sense of loss. Relationships are never that simple. People grow apart for many reasons. Maybe you should identify people that do not put triggers out there to be your friends.
Plus once someone like that does push your button, be careful about giving them the power to do that again by selectively telling them what is not going to make you vulnerable.

CANDC, you're right. However, the relationship I have with this person is not so simple. Before writing this post I was going to refer to her as an 'acquaintance', but the term wasn't suitable. Why would I talk about something like that with an acquaintance & not with a friend? Let me explain: she has been my housemate for almost a year & because of this she knows me very well. Although she wasn't directly affected by my exaggerated behaviours, pathological lie etc.. she had the chance of observing everything from an objective point of view. As the months passed & I kept creating troubles she started having doubts about our friendship. Eventually, two months ago we had a fight & she told me she didn't want me to be her friend anymore. Obviously she doesn't know about my PD & I don't think I'll tell her since I'm going to move soon.
Now we treat each other as acquaintances, sometimes as strangers. I am sure that she has a grudge against me as I hurt some of her friends. So even though I hated her for saying those things, I don't have the right to answer back.

Thank you very much for your advices. I won't forget them ☻

[shakespeare47]

I'm mostly a pwBPD and NPD traits. Being disrespected is a huge trigger for me.

[CANDC]

Originally Posted by Chunchun〜♡

CANDC, you're right. However, the relationship I have with this person is not so simple. Before writing this post I was going to refer to her as an 'acquaintance', but the term wasn't suitable. Why would I talk about something like that with an acquaintance & not with a friend? Let me explain: she has been my housemate for almost a year & because of this she knows me very well. Although she wasn't directly affected by my exaggerated behaviours, pathological lie etc.. she had the chance of observing everything from an objective point of view. As the months passed & I kept creating troubles she started having doubts about our friendship. Eventually, two months ago we had a fight & she told me she didn't want me to be her friend anymore. Obviously she doesn't know about my PD & I don't think I'll tell her since I'm going to move soon.
Now we treat each other as acquaintances, sometimes as strangers. I am sure that she has a grudge against me as I hurt some of her friends. So even though I hated her for saying those things, I don't have the right to answer back.

Thank you very much for your advices. I won't forget them ☻

Sharing living quarters puts you in a vulnerable position, so right on decision to not bare your soul to this person who seems to be antagonistic at best. CANDC

[anomaly_fleur]

Being disrespected is huge for me. So is being ignored, and yes, the sarcastic "It's never your fault" (which I get a lot of). Being ignored and mental health shaming as well.