My wife wants me to drop SSDI and work

Jan 30, 2013 at 07:58 PM

You should honestly do what is best for YOU. Do what is best for the sake of your sanity. It is YOUR life, YOUR choice. If you are not able to work, then you shouldn't work.

Intense&Preouppied · Jan 30, 2013 at 09:37 PM

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Then allow her her selfish moments... time to praise her then, and stroke her ego some...she sounds like she's doing a good job but of course wants you "back"... and what is fair about any illness? It's not like you're malingering...no one wishes for mental unwellness... most everyone I know would love to be healthy and making income to spend!

I don't think you get it. Selfish, Self Centerness, Pride & Ego are her character defects. Which she needs to address. Not praised for them. Her verbal abuse is not appropiate in this situation. These are the least helpful things this gentleman needs hear. I had to laugh at her question, "What if I get sick too?" Answer : Well dear, I guess we'll both be collecting SSDI. (Reality) The key here is "Acceptance." Living life on life's terms. Doing the best you can, with what you've got. Find the positive in the situation, instead of only the negitive.

shortandcute · Jan 31, 2013 at 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Maranara

One thing a lot of people don't consider these days but should based on our high tech society is the possibility of working from home. Due to the internet, there are a lot of job opportunities out there that simply didn't exist 10 or 20 years ago. With an internet-based home job, you don't have to deal with people face to face and some of the them you don't even have to deal with people at all. Some, but not all, you can choose your own hours. If you're having a bad day, don't work! I know it isn't the solution for everyone but I do think it is a way that some people who cannot work in public due to disabilities, whether an MH one or physical one, can enter the work force. Don't give up when it comes to working; internet/homebased jobs is something that one needs to explore more before throwing in the towel.

If anyone is interested and wants some suggestions, feel free to contact me. I don't have all the answers, but have been working internet jobs for over 10 years and can throw you some ideas.

Wow, I wish I could find one of those internet jobs! Everyone that I looked into (which has been alot) required a lot of money to be put into it, and I was required to be on the computer quite a bit. Do you know of any internet jobs that don't require a lot of money and that will pay me for my actual work, whether somebody "buys" or not?

winter4me · Feb 01, 2013 at 09:47 AM

What really makes me angry and fearful too is that our society, our government works in a black/white healthy/sick attitude that does not allow for assistance to be on a sliding scale...

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I am posting something under the work and careers forum for anyone who wants to seek an at-home job.

Rose76 · Feb 09, 2013 at 01:03 AM

It sounds like your wife is wanting you to go back and try what has already been tried. Having gone through all you went through to get SSDI, I think it would be a step backwards do that. Your plan to wait and use that Ticket to Work Program sounds like very sensible to me. Ultimately, it sounds safer for her, too.

I hope your family can stay together. If your wife is actually willing to walk out now, if you don't give up SSDI, imagine how much quicker she will walk out, if you do give up SSDI and then fail at the job you take.

I've heard there are "benefits counselors" out there. Maybe you could find out about getting access to one and further discuss your plan. Such a counselor might also advice both you and your wife of the risks of doing what she proposes. She might listen to the counselor more attentively.

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Anonymous48917 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 30, 2013 at 07:58 PM #21 You should honestly do what is best for YOU. Do what is best for the sake of your sanity. It is YOUR life, YOUR choice. If you are not able to work, then you shouldn't work.
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winter4me Wise Elder Member Since Dec 2012 Location: new england Posts: 7,733 11 1,818 hugs given	Feb 01, 2013 at 09:47 AM #24 What really makes me angry and fearful too is that our society, our government works in a black/white healthy/sick attitude that does not allow for assistance to be on a sliding scale...
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Anonymous32935 Guest Posts: n/a	Feb 02, 2013 at 02:07 PM #25 I am posting something under the work and careers forum for anyone who wants to seek an at-home job. Last edited by Anonymous32935; Feb 02, 2013 at 02:44 PM..
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