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Default Jun 23, 2024 at 10:42 AM
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Everything I worked for has been undone. I'm very disappointed.

I haven’t been able to find work. My bank account is nearly depleted. I have enough to pay my rent next month. After that I am screwed. Out of desperation I applied for social assistance via the provincial website. Four weeks later they called to offer me an appointment in September. After we talked a bit, the lady told me she would call me back on Friday. She actually called back and offered an appointment in July instead and told me I was in a “prescribed class” so I did not need to do another medical application. All I have to do is pass their financial screening and they will help me. - I feel like I don’t qualify for this assistance. This is situational.

This feels like I just took a few steps backwards. Five years ago I left the program and have been looking after my own needs by working. Last year I lost my job due to layoff. Life has been challenging since then. I lived off of EI for seven months which helped a lot. That ran out so I resort to my savings. I also completed a course with a work placement a few months ago and did not get hired because I am too ‘autistic’ for them. – This rejection really triggered me, because it confirmed yet again that I am socially flawed. I’m trying to get through this. Getting out of bed is easier and don’t feel suicidal as much as I did. The stress has been extreme. I lost about 15 pounds since the end of April.

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Note: Don’t reply if you have nothing helpful to add. I do not want to hear how terrible I am. I already feel awful. You don’t need to remind me.

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Default Jun 25, 2024 at 10:41 AM
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Don't be so hard on yourself. Those programs are meant for people like you who need it. I'm sure you paid plenty of taxes to support such assistance when you were working.

Hugs, I hope things look up for you soon.
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Default Jun 25, 2024 at 11:38 AM
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Nobody here would think you are terrible, my didge. Many of us walk in the same shoes, just trying to get thru the day. I sometimes feel i should have been working these last (mumblety) years, but people knocked me down for the last time.
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Default Jun 26, 2024 at 10:50 AM
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Thank you for the replies and especially for not judging me. I appreciate it.

I feel I don't deserve help because I haven't tried hard enough in my job search. I know it is very rigid thinking. Stopping these thoughts is difficult. I keep telling myself not to be so hard on myself. Unfortunately it isn't working very well.

The guilt I feel is overwhelming.




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I'm sorry you're facing this setback and that you've been unsuccessful so far in finding a job, the job market can be brutal.

Please try not to feel bad about needing assistance - it's there for a reason, and they wouldn't give it to you if you didn't need it. Even though I'm working, I'm still on ODSP, albeit at a lower monthly payment than if I wasn't working. But it covers me for my meds and dental which I'm grateful for. I'm just grateful for the extra support.

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I'm sorry you're facing this setback and that you've been unsuccessful so far in finding a job, the job market can be brutal.
Have you started looking? I heard it is really challenging to find work in your city right now. – It’s also bad in this part of the province.

I signed up with a service that assists job seekers with disabilities. The additional support should help with my weaknesses. E.g., interviews. My first appointment with the employment counselor is next week and it’s in person.

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Please try not to feel bad about needing assistance - it's there for a reason, and they wouldn't give it to you if you didn't need it. Even though I'm working, I'm still on ODSP, albeit at a lower monthly payment than if I wasn't working. But it covers me for my meds and dental which I'm grateful for. I'm just grateful for the extra support.
I applied for ODSP online, since I was on it before. When I left it 5 years ago, they told me I was in one of their 'prescribed classes', so I can go back on it anytime as long as I am financial eligible.

They called me to book an appointment about two weeks ago after a 29 day wait. It was supposed to be in September, but it was changed to the middle of July. They also sent me an email that lists all the documents they want and mentioned that they have to verify the ‘prescribed class’ status.

I have to sign documents so they can do a background check. E.g., CRA and other government programs. It appears they will be looking for assets and loans. - I have nothing that I can convert to cash.

They told me I could work while on it, as long as I am not on CPP-D, which I am not. Apparently one can make up to $1000.00 before ODSP deducts support. Is this amount net or gross? Is your caseworker responsive? My old one was nearly impossible to get a hold of.

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