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Hi I’m Lunar I’m new!
I’ve had some feelings about my body that have gotten more intense over the years. I identify as a girl, but I hate being female. I just hate having female parts. I wish I could wake up one day and they wouldn’t be there. I don’t want to be male though. I’m not sure if this is gender dysphoria or not. I don’t hate my body in general just the parts of it that are female. I still want to be a girl and wear girly clothes and present as a girl. If it helps I’m also asexual so maybe that’s why??? |
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Dysphoria just means that you're experiencing a lot of distress about your body's sexual characteristics or gender. I felt like that for a long time before I figured out an identity that felt right to me. It was helpful for me to separate how I felt about my body and gender identity, from gender expression or how I wanted to present myself. You can have any identity and still present in a girly way.
Do you feel that way about your girl parts all the time, or does it get worse at times and better at others? You might be fluid, or maybe gender neutral, or gray-gender, or even neutrois. And you don't have to figure it out right away. Being asexual might possibly make you feel uncomfortable about your body, but not necessarily. Sexuality doesn't have to be tied to gender identity either. Give yourself the time and space to investigate what the various labels are and try them on to see how they feel. |
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Yeah it does seem to fluctuate but I normally get triggered by something like I’ll see a diagram of female anatomy or something and I’ll feel like “That’s in me and I don’t like it”. I thought maybe my asexuality had something to do with it cause I feel like those parts aren’t good for anything if I’m not interested in sex or pregnancy. It more seems to fluctuate between me wanting to be nothing to sort of being nonchalant and uncaring about being female.
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I'm sorry I don't think I know the answer to your concern. Different people can have different informal perspectives with regard to what does or does not constitute gender dysphoria I suppose. But I don't believe what you are describing relates to the technical definition of gender dysphoria. Here are links to 2 articles, from PC's archives, on the subject of gender dysphoria:
Gender Dysphoria Symptoms What is Gender Dysphoria? | Mental Health Awareness By the way, you mentioned being asexual. So I wondered if you are familiar with the Asexual Visibility and Education Network. I'm not a member & I can't offer anything in the way of an endorsement. It's simply something I happen to know is out there: Forums - Asexual Visibility and Education Network My best wishes to you... __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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My daughter hates her girl parts. She is 'going' transgender. I don't think this is how it happens. I want to be there for him? I'm just as confused as her?
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