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Default Nov 04, 2020 at 10:45 AM
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I don't like the term - a lesbian.
I think it is the A infront of lesbian
That offends me.
I am a person.
I am a woman.
I don't see myself as a lesbian
I feel like the term represents
Being called an alien, an anomaly, a separate
From normal people. A something else.
Men are gay. Gay men.
Women should be gay women.
Women who happen to be gay.
Don't tell me it is just a term,
A means to describe a person.
It is falling out of style
And I think more
Women would feel more
Comfortable in their
Own skin and to come out,
if a lesbian was dropped
In favour of a more modern
And appropriate term
To describe a woman's orientation.
I say that I am gay.
Trans people. They are trans.
Men. They are gay men.
Bisexual. They are Bisexual.
Women attracted to other women only,
Are a something else.
Not lesbian woman. A lesbian.
I dislike the otherness of the term.
That is why I say that I am gay.
Are you a lesbian?
I try not to hesitate
And say yes, I'm gay.
Ah so you are...
(then they pause too ...)
A lesbian.
You don't look like.... One.
Even straight people
Have trouble saying a lesbian.
Watch Peter Kay
And his curly hair sketch.
So they are a....

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Default Nov 04, 2020 at 11:09 AM
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Dear Lunatyc,

I like what you wrote.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

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Default Nov 10, 2020 at 08:41 AM
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I don't need kids to be happy.
I accept that I am gay
And choose to be kid free.
I am happy with my choice.
It's what I want. It's my life.
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Default Nov 16, 2020 at 04:32 AM
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I don't have any gay friends.
I am not a fan of the
In vogue phrase: the Lgbt community.
As if to say people
Who are not heterosexual
Are a separate community.
However I gloss over
It when I hear it on the news
Because it's just an umbrella term
Such as Bame( Black, Asian and Ethnic minorities)
This will, hopefully, change in time,
And we won't need
To group people under labels.
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Default Nov 26, 2020 at 02:33 AM
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I never thought of the concept of "a lesbian" like that. Back then, a man couldn't be anything other than a man and live up to the masculinity that manhood requires...so gay men were known as "a homosexual". The "a homosexual" was "the other" label for a gay man. Now, the term "homosexual" is becoming outdated.

Times do change. There are new labels created every day to help identify those under a blanket of identities and pronouns. I myself am lost as to what I called myself. In high school, I was questioning; now I'm clueless. But part of creating who I am is to explore the identities and frequencies. If you do not want to be called "a lesbian", make it known to your loved ones. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable to be who you are.
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Default Nov 28, 2020 at 11:09 AM
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I find people trying to label me. I don't want to be labeled. Yes, I am in a same sex marriage. I deserve that.

I recently answered a survey that asked how I identified myself. I hesitated to put myself under the title lesbian, which I did, with hesitation.

I view myself as simply a person.

I forget that I live outside what most people would see as normal.

I'm just me.
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I have found that the equality questionnaires I have had to fill in, in the past usually have the options on orientation as, heterosexual or homosexual or prefer not to disclose.
Now of course, times are advancing and there is a myriad of ways to describe a person's orientation. And to describe one's gender.
Me, I am female and homosexual on paper. I feel mundane and boring when I fill out a dating app profile. No I'm not vegan. No I'm not pansexual. No I don't attend pride. I'm Liberal but more towards the centre. I skip those with the future is female t shirts. I hate labels and boxes at the best of times and these sites are
provocateurs ofpigeon hole choices.
Alas, hold on a moment, maybe I am a little gender fluid with fashion. But I'm not actually gender fluid. Or is that just being a bit of a tomboy?
D### it I won't try and be cool. I am going to try using the dating apps designed for straight people and those who are gay.
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Default Jan 03, 2021 at 06:39 AM
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I am at the cut off for
The "hip" dating apps.
Getting too old to follow fashion.
I have bought walking/ hiking shoes
Over trainer's/boots.
I have no social media or app's.
I did not go cyber cold turkey.
Used only fb messenger,
Before deleting main account,
That was some time ago.
Tik Tok. I will not wait passed this year.
Come 2022, I publish.

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I have found that the equality questionnaires I have had to fill in, in the past usually have the options on orientation as, heterosexual or homosexual or prefer not to disclose.
Now of course, times are advancing and there is a myriad of ways to describe a person's orientation. And to describe one's gender.
Me, I am female and homosexual on paper. I feel mundane and boring when I fill out a dating app profile. No I'm not vegan. No I'm not pansexual. No I don't attend pride. I'm Liberal but more towards the centre. I skip those with the future is female t shirts. I hate labels and boxes at the best of times and these sites are
provocateurs ofpigeon hole choices.
Alas, hold on a moment, maybe I am a little gender fluid with fashion. But I'm not actually gender fluid. Or is that just being a bit of a tomboy?
D### it I won't try and be cool. I am going to try using the dating apps designed for straight people and those who are gay.
I don’t think you sound mundane or boring. You have every right to be referred to as what you prefer. Hopefully others will respect it, when you tell them.

I’m the last of the Boomers. It’s fascinating to me how all the new terminology has replaced that from ‘my time’. BTW- You’re never too old to be fashionable.

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Default Jan 03, 2021 at 10:01 AM
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My family knew my old flame wasn't a saint.
My mum said it herself that
He would: fight with his
Own shadow if he could.
But when it came to me,
Considering I had been in rehab,
They thougt that he was a good match,
And blokes fight when they are drunk.
It was nothing to worry over was it?
But he was sober, when he broke that
Man's ribs and smashed his cheek,
It was a restaurant opening.
He should not have been drinking.
So that was a reason,
I tried to let his jokes go over my head.
Because my family thought
It was normal for a man
To be the way he was.
That's why I bit my tongue when
He came home every night
Saying it was my fault,
He had the life of a dog. It wasn't.
I knew he was out of order
And he was not trying to
: wind me up. He crossed the line.
It wasn't my fault
That before I met him,
His inner circle took the mick out of him
Or ribbed him a bit
More than the rest at times.
That some of their girlfriend's thought
He was a bit odd, for being quiet
And being more concerned
With being the hardest drinker and fighter
Than pulling women when out.
He couldn't blame me
That his posse were the type
Of gang that if you weren't
Out with them all the time,
They moved on and
Found other people to hang around with.
Heck a lot of my friend's were like that too.
His pal's got miffed with the fighting.
They left him on his own
Some night's out when he lost it
Or started a brawl for no reason.
The amount of nights
Cut short by his fighting
Were too many too tally.

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Default Jan 03, 2021 at 12:06 PM
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It was another stunt.
A back up plan.
I was going harikiri.
I proved my point.
Back at meltdown one,
After going off the rail's,
I had to re-evaluate my life.
After the first stunt,
I had found my calling.
I will confess, I don't regret it.
Strange thing is,
I think that some really understood
Why I had rebelled
And went off the rails.
Look at the hand I was dealt.
My family were mega strict
And did the bare minimum
To supprort me.
Some of my friend's were wild.
Everyone knew I clashed
With authority and teacher's.
Thug had an abysmal reputation
And people saw how he turned on me.
I was from a humble backround
And I was intelligent.
So I'd have other challenges
When or if I went on to learning.
My head was not in the clouds.
I knew in reality that the
Odd' s were stacked against me, and
I had to find a way out. Needed to.
I loved music, but
Guitar solo's bored me to tear's
And missing live music
Didn't put me up or down.
I was alway's doing
Other endeavour's while music played-
Training, walking, commuting,
With friend's, as backround music.
I only got into art because
I had built this wall.
I was good at sport,
Thankfully I never made it.
I had gone further
Than I thought I would.
But the spark had been lit.
My choice's had led me
To where I needed to be and
My old flame didn't get it.
He did not have a
Creative bone in his body.
He did not get the process,
Or that I had been drifting,
Toward's another path
Long before the meltdown.
I changed as soon
As I went to high school.
I grew up quickly
Because of my home life
And then again
When I had a breakdown.
It wasn't me who was ignorant and naive.

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