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I don't like the term - a lesbian.
I think it is the A infront of lesbian That offends me. I am a person. I am a woman. I don't see myself as a lesbian I feel like the term represents Being called an alien, an anomaly, a separate From normal people. A something else. Men are gay. Gay men. Women should be gay women. Women who happen to be gay. Don't tell me it is just a term, A means to describe a person. It is falling out of style And I think more Women would feel more Comfortable in their Own skin and to come out, if a lesbian was dropped In favour of a more modern And appropriate term To describe a woman's orientation. I say that I am gay. Trans people. They are trans. Men. They are gay men. Bisexual. They are Bisexual. Women attracted to other women only, Are a something else. Not lesbian woman. A lesbian. I dislike the otherness of the term. That is why I say that I am gay. Are you a lesbian? I try not to hesitate And say yes, I'm gay. Ah so you are... (then they pause too ...) A lesbian. You don't look like.... One. Even straight people Have trouble saying a lesbian. Watch Peter Kay And his curly hair sketch. So they are a.... Last edited by Lunatyc; Nov 04, 2020 at 11:34 AM.. |
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Dear Lunatyc,
I like what you wrote. Sincerely yours, Yao Wen Last edited by Yaowen; Nov 04, 2020 at 11:25 AM.. |
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#3
I don't need kids to be happy.
I accept that I am gay And choose to be kid free. I am happy with my choice. It's what I want. It's my life. |
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I don't have any gay friends.
I am not a fan of the In vogue phrase: the Lgbt community. As if to say people Who are not heterosexual Are a separate community. However I gloss over It when I hear it on the news Because it's just an umbrella term Such as Bame( Black, Asian and Ethnic minorities) This will, hopefully, change in time, And we won't need To group people under labels. |
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I never thought of the concept of "a lesbian" like that. Back then, a man couldn't be anything other than a man and live up to the masculinity that manhood requires...so gay men were known as "a homosexual". The "a homosexual" was "the other" label for a gay man. Now, the term "homosexual" is becoming outdated.
Times do change. There are new labels created every day to help identify those under a blanket of identities and pronouns. I myself am lost as to what I called myself. In high school, I was questioning; now I'm clueless. But part of creating who I am is to explore the identities and frequencies. If you do not want to be called "a lesbian", make it known to your loved ones. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable to be who you are. |
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I find people trying to label me. I don't want to be labeled. Yes, I am in a same sex marriage. I deserve that.
I recently answered a survey that asked how I identified myself. I hesitated to put myself under the title lesbian, which I did, with hesitation. I view myself as simply a person. I forget that I live outside what most people would see as normal. I'm just me. |
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I have found that the equality questionnaires I have had to fill in, in the past usually have the options on orientation as, heterosexual or homosexual or prefer not to disclose.
Now of course, times are advancing and there is a myriad of ways to describe a person's orientation. And to describe one's gender. Me, I am female and homosexual on paper. I feel mundane and boring when I fill out a dating app profile. No I'm not vegan. No I'm not pansexual. No I don't attend pride. I'm Liberal but more towards the centre. I skip those with the future is female t shirts. I hate labels and boxes at the best of times and these sites are provocateurs ofpigeon hole choices. Alas, hold on a moment, maybe I am a little gender fluid with fashion. But I'm not actually gender fluid. Or is that just being a bit of a tomboy? D### it I won't try and be cool. I am going to try using the dating apps designed for straight people and those who are gay. |
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I am at the cut off for
The "hip" dating apps. Getting too old to follow fashion. I have bought walking/ hiking shoes Over trainer's/boots. I have no social media or app's. I did not go cyber cold turkey. Used only fb messenger, Before deleting main account, That was some time ago. Tik Tok. I will not wait passed this year. Come 2022, I publish. Last edited by Lunatyc; Jan 03, 2021 at 06:52 AM.. |
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I’m the last of the Boomers. It’s fascinating to me how all the new terminology has replaced that from ‘my time’. BTW- You’re never too old to be fashionable. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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#10
My family knew my old flame wasn't a saint.
My mum said it herself that He would: fight with his Own shadow if he could. But when it came to me, Considering I had been in rehab, They thougt that he was a good match, And blokes fight when they are drunk. It was nothing to worry over was it? But he was sober, when he broke that Man's ribs and smashed his cheek, It was a restaurant opening. He should not have been drinking. So that was a reason, I tried to let his jokes go over my head. Because my family thought It was normal for a man To be the way he was. That's why I bit my tongue when He came home every night Saying it was my fault, He had the life of a dog. It wasn't. I knew he was out of order And he was not trying to : wind me up. He crossed the line. It wasn't my fault That before I met him, His inner circle took the mick out of him Or ribbed him a bit More than the rest at times. That some of their girlfriend's thought He was a bit odd, for being quiet And being more concerned With being the hardest drinker and fighter Than pulling women when out. He couldn't blame me That his posse were the type Of gang that if you weren't Out with them all the time, They moved on and Found other people to hang around with. Heck a lot of my friend's were like that too. His pal's got miffed with the fighting. They left him on his own Some night's out when he lost it Or started a brawl for no reason. The amount of nights Cut short by his fighting Were too many too tally. Last edited by Lunatyc; Jan 03, 2021 at 10:36 AM.. |
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It was another stunt.
A back up plan. I was going harikiri. I proved my point. Back at meltdown one, After going off the rail's, I had to re-evaluate my life. After the first stunt, I had found my calling. I will confess, I don't regret it. Strange thing is, I think that some really understood Why I had rebelled And went off the rails. Look at the hand I was dealt. My family were mega strict And did the bare minimum To supprort me. Some of my friend's were wild. Everyone knew I clashed With authority and teacher's. Thug had an abysmal reputation And people saw how he turned on me. I was from a humble backround And I was intelligent. So I'd have other challenges When or if I went on to learning. My head was not in the clouds. I knew in reality that the Odd' s were stacked against me, and I had to find a way out. Needed to. I loved music, but Guitar solo's bored me to tear's And missing live music Didn't put me up or down. I was alway's doing Other endeavour's while music played- Training, walking, commuting, With friend's, as backround music. I only got into art because I had built this wall. I was good at sport, Thankfully I never made it. I had gone further Than I thought I would. But the spark had been lit. My choice's had led me To where I needed to be and My old flame didn't get it. He did not have a Creative bone in his body. He did not get the process, Or that I had been drifting, Toward's another path Long before the meltdown. I changed as soon As I went to high school. I grew up quickly Because of my home life And then again When I had a breakdown. It wasn't me who was ignorant and naive. Last edited by Lunatyc; Jan 03, 2021 at 12:56 PM.. |
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