~*glass_owl*~

I've only dated cis-gendered men and had sex with them, but I've had some experiences with women. I made out with another woman at least once when I was drunk and I can't remember if more happened. I was sober when I let a woman use s&m tools on me. The same night I wouldn't let a woman go down on me. nor that woman. I can't really say that I've had crushes on other woman, but I am sometimes drawn to their faces or see that they are attractive, but they do nothing for me. This one woman touched me when I was sober as we were dancing and I was turned off and I took her hands and shoved them off me and made out with the first guy I could see. But that one woman at the s&m club makes me think, we almost had a threesome with this guy and I turned it down (I didn't know any of them and it felt weird). It seems like I'm bi for this fetish, but not for anything else.

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Sobriety date 4/19/14
schizoaffective, PTSD and others.

RoxanneToto

It can be difficult to work out, and at the end of the day it’s really what you feel comfortable with when you want to describe your sexuality. I think if you haven’t met a woman you felt an innate urge to take to bed (and/or want to have a romantic relationship with - romantic and sexual attraction go hand in hand for most people, but are actually separate things. There’s also aesthetic attraction where you just like a person’s appearance and not much else... human attraction is pretty complex, really!), you’re likely not bi, though.

~*glass_owl*~

That makes sense, thank you for your advice!

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Sobriety date 4/19/14
schizoaffective, PTSD and others.