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Default Apr 19, 2022 at 04:39 PM
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I identify with this community and living most of my life embracing it. I get lonely a lot. I continue to recover with my mental health as it keeps me on my toes in the struggle. I push myself through the loneliness and misunderstandings by others however I still cant shake the sadness that it brings. I have had many happy times with different friends and walks of life however it rears it ugly head (my mental illness) which grabs a hold of me. I am tired and have been tired on different occasions. I always seem to hold on to things to live for which is a blessing. I have been working on bringing joy into my life which has been a struggle. When my loneliness brings me its sadness it just loops and keeps looping. I live in an area that hardly has community. It has become even worse (my loneliness and mental health) as I use to live in a more populated area. I am working on making options and to get back to an area that has better resources. I cry often. I have my fur babies and a loving wife however she cant be the ONLY one to combat my own loneliness and sadness. That is my responsibility. She can offer support and just love me. I am reaching out and posting this thread to see if any other people have similar life experiences. Humans are social creatures and need some sort of connection. For an example, in these forums one is connecting one way or another. My goals moving forward is continuing to combat my loneliness and sadness that comes and goes. While embracing my blessings and finding joy in my own life experiences, maybe a connection or two here.

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Default Apr 20, 2022 at 08:57 AM
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Hey, I saw your post and wanted to say that you’re not alone in feeling that way. I quite often feel lonely even if I’m surrounded by people who care. I have some challenges to overcome, ok, well a lot, but, I’m doing the work, and hoping things will improve for me. That said, during that process, it is incredibly difficult to be completely grounded. So much has changed in my life that has left me without a family (other than the one I’ve created), siblings and other relatives are not there, and that ties in with my own sadness too. My partner, while female too, doesn’t identify as gay, she was in straight relationships her whole life until we met. I long to have other couples we can invite into our world, for dinner, drinks, socialising, but no clue how we do that. I can be socially awkward, especially since lockdown and find I’m so shy now that meeting anyone isn’t easy. I’m confident in so many other ways, except for introducing myself!!

Anyway, just wanted to say you’re not alone, here if you wanna talk
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@WonderSun ~

Thank you for sharing your life experiences. It means a lot.

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Well... I'm an old man now who has waged a (closeted) life-long struggle with my gender identlty. I am married (my wife's accomplishment... not mine.) Otherwise, I'm pretty-much totally reclusive... no family, no friends or even acquaintances (mostly by choice.)

I've always felt uncomfortable around men. But I never really felt especially comfortable around women either for that matter. Plus, I've been a largely toxic person much of my life as well. So, consequently, I've gradually become increasingly reclusive as the years have gone by. And I'm mostly content with that now. But it does still feel lonely some of the time.

My GD issues are don't ask / don't tell at home. And there's no one else I can share them with. I've often found myself wishing there were someone like myself I could be friends with. But it's simply not happened. And at this point, when it comes right down to it, I don't know as I really even care. So that's the way it goes.

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Default Apr 21, 2022 at 05:59 PM
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@Skeezyks I remember seeing some of your posts through my perusing in the forms. I can not imagine the things you share and I am also grateful for your shares or responses to the forum.. Perspective from others, I value and people that are able to express themselves.

That said old man Thank you for your sharing and your 2 cents !

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I came across this thread that started one year ago and I can totally relate to loneliness and being LGBT from all the comments above. That has been me for the majority of my adult life. Thinking that one is transgender (actually a crossdresser) makes me very cautious around people, of who I get to know and select as friends. Plenty of fear exists. Like Skeezkys, above, I am closeted and married. My transgender interests have to exist in fantasy but I am also a realist too and that has helped me many times by taking an honest look at what transgenderism is and how well do I really fit in. The people I meet or don't meet are also of my own choosing. I am a follower. My own thinking I don't trust much of the time and I have difficulty with authenticity. I am afraid of rejection, ridicule, criticism, being pushed, persuaded. I don't like being wrong. I used to think, or relate to the transgender and the rest of the lgbt community because I saw these people as being outcasts, marginalized, lonely, society dropouts until I realized later on in life that not everyone is that way, who is lgbt. I have met some trans people that I like but many I have disliked. Because to come out of the closet and be what you would like to be on the inside, takes a lot of thick skin to begin with. Coming from two dysfunctional parents and in a family dynamic where nobody trusted one another and couldn't be themselves. I am an adult-child. I attend ACA meetings, so I have been able to dissect and diagnose the world which I come from.
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