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Old Jul 16, 2023 at 02:35 PM
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I had an experience sometime last year where someone didn't like me, so they went into DMs (on another site, not related to this one at all) and started misgendering me to my friends and then using transphobic logic to justify misgendering me.

I think now that I look back at it, they simply didn't know my gender and assumed but when corrected instead of being like, "Oh, sorry!" They decided to use transphobic logic to justify misgendering me instead of just... Saying sorry?

Anyway, this led to a ton of issues for me. One, I trusted this person with sensitive information about myself and I liked them, genuinely. So for them to turn around and purposefully misgender me really, really hurt.

When I told the staff of this site that this person was being transphobic, I was banned because I was spreading "slander". :/

How do you deal with injustice and transphobia? I feel like I didn't do anything wrong, and it's not fair that I was banned for telling a staff that someone was transphobic without them even looking into it.

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Old Jul 16, 2023 at 07:35 PM
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Hey that sounds really rough, wrong even. I hope you are in a better place now. Your post highlights a greater need for understanding, and you entrusted this person too. May I ask, how are you today.
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Old Aug 04, 2023 at 10:47 PM
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I had an experience sometime last year where someone didn't like me, so they went into DMs (on another site, not related to this one at all) and started misgendering me to my friends and then using transphobic logic to justify misgendering me.

I think now that I look back at it, they simply didn't know my gender and assumed but when corrected instead of being like, "Oh, sorry!" They decided to use transphobic logic to justify misgendering me instead of just... Saying sorry?

Anyway, this led to a ton of issues for me. One, I trusted this person with sensitive information about myself and I liked them, genuinely. So for them to turn around and purposefully misgender me really, really hurt.

When I told the staff of this site that this person was being transphobic, I was banned because I was spreading "slander". :/

How do you deal with injustice and transphobia? I feel like I didn't do anything wrong, and it's not fair that I was banned for telling a staff that someone was transphobic without them even looking into it.


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