I don't know if I can post this here...

I am asexual. Straight out... it's a fact. It's not because of medication, or a condition, or a "bad experience" (though, that's a story for another day). I have felt this way as long as I can remember, even through puberty.

I say this today because...I'm tired of people questioning it. Even arguing with it.

I'm tired of my mum claiming she's never been interested in sex either, so she's not worried about me not being into sex. Then suddenly sitting there lamenting how she'll never have grandkids like ALL of her coworkers.

Or my coworkers, or even past friends, asking me about who I'm interested in "doing". Or having long conversations about what they "like". I've told people I don't wanna talk about it, but it never sinks in. I either have to sit there and endure it, or I need to extricate myself from the conversation entirely. Either way, I become a mark for teasing the second I react. Or third option, I listen to their stories and pretend to be like them, even make up things that "happened" in my life or a whole new "active" persona to fit in.

You'd think it'd be easier with people who were of the LGBTQ community, but it's not. With them, I hear "oh, you just haven't tried enough things yet". It's no different than the straight men trying to tell me "one night with them and they'll "fix" me". No means no people... seriously.

I'm always...and I mean ALWAYS respectful of other's situations and interests. Everyone is different and deserves respect, no matter where they come from. When I was 15, a transgender drag queen I knew online gave me the best makeup tips in my life. I knew her because she liked the same video game I did. Honestly, I'm open minded.

I just...ugh... I just want someone to treat me like that. Be respectful to me. And treat me like a person too. You know, it's hard enough going through life trying to date, when everyone you meet says "what's the point of a relationship with no sex?" ... there's plenty of other things... plenty...

Sorry for rambling...

Ici

I’m asexual too. Never got into the whole teen crush thing. But that was decades ago, and asexual wasn’t a thing, homosexuality was barely a thing. I felt pressured into dating and getting married. Sex was awful but I did get. A daughter out of it. Even now at 66 I have no interest when the others talk of who’s hot and etc. but I don’t say anything for precisely the same reason. People can’t believe someone is not interested in sex. It’s oh you’ve just not found your match.

I think that people in the past who were like you had more societal options for recognition and acknowledgement of who they were and what they found appealing and important to them. One could become a monk or a nun; a woman could decide to help raise her nieces and nephews instead of having children herself.