[anew1]

I have been married for over 10 years. 4 years ago I had to admit to my sexual addiction. I have been on meds and working with professional Md's.
After four years my wife still has no trust for me in any type of romantic or sexual situation. She says I disgust her and she loves me but does not want to be around me. What do I do? What is a relationship without romance.

[Mike_J]

Trust is a very diffiult thing to build and so easy to tear down. I think you need to ask yourself do you still want a marriage, I'm guessing you would say yes or you wouldn't be looking for advice. I think you need to adknowlege her fears/concerns avoid situations where she will have a chance to doubt you, and expect any repair in your relationship to take time. There have been a couple of times I was in total dispair because I thought my marriage was over, but each time with time and honesty things got better. Tell her you want to make things better, and let her assist you in working to make things better.

[anew1]

I was told today she has never felt romance in our marriage just sexual frustration. I know the word never was ment to hurt but even saying she felt little romance would have been hurtful words. I guess mens idea of sex and romance differ from those of women.

[trevorzero]

If your wife indicates that she is incapable of trusting you then she has told you that the marriage is over and done with.

What she wants from you is to be her roommate and to help with the finances.

You need to start planning for a life beyond her.

[Mike_J]

Originally Posted by anew1

I guess mens idea of sex and romance differ from those of women.

I don't think you can generalize that much. Individuals have different views, there is no agreement on anything throughout men, or throughout women.