Importance of Female Partners Orgasm

Some women get off on doing it with a man with the "as long as I get mine attitude". A sensitive, considerate, caring man is a milquetoast to them.

Important, but not as important as connecting.

There, I said it!

It's what happens when you fall in love with an INFJ
I'll just buy and hide some extra batteries though, incase She was just subtlety commenting on how long I last

Seriously though, balance matters.
I'd rather just lay with my GF for an hour, if that's all the time we get to see each other that week.

Whilst I agree, her orgasm is mine, and I have studied so much on the female body, that if you'd caught me reading in the library, you'd might think I was considering a sex change, but no, there is something past that.

I had to look up milquetoast.
Yes and those Women probably have deep seeded issues.
No thanks! Everyone has their own opinion though, I guess.

@LifeIsCruel: and would you go as far as to say, you can see how make up, is manipulation? Is about not being real, not presenting their full self? No wonder most Women fake it. I think those who do though, aren't worth being with, or they don't respect you. I mean "to save feelings", wtf, how about communicating?
(Women may talk a lot, but that doesn't mean they are good communicators).

Communication is important, including during sex, even if it's just a few words.
It's more about body language tbh. In the moment at least.

Why should guys only get to have fun. It should go both ways

I guess it all depends on perspective. I personally have always focussed on pleasuring my partners, be it men or women, before myself. I can, with little difficulty, stop intercourse after my partner orgasms without actually orgasming myself. It is always a nice conclusion if both partners orgasm at the same time, or just both orgasm.

Right now with the problems I'm having with the loss of sensation to my genitals, I am trying to deal with an inability to orgasm due to lack of feeling. However, I am more than willing to pleasure my wife orally, manually or with toys to make her satisfied. Unfortunately, she doesn't want have sex at all because she doesn't want me to me sad and disappointed by not having an orgasm. Now, on top of not being able to orgasm, I can't even get the pleasure from pleasuring her! For gods sake woman, be selfish and let me get you off!!!

My father always told me, if your wife/gf ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

Another truism... Women want roasted ice.

[I'm not sure what is meant by orgasmic. Sex for me came late in life and I was convinced that it was wrong for awhile. But for me I just want to make her happy and for her to reach her level of sexual gratification. In my view that is not obtained just by what is done during sexual relating, but in my lifestyle as a monogamous man faithful to her. Any woman can feign an orgasm though. So I geuss that is not paramount to me.

quote=Malachite;1720842]How important is it to you, for your female sexual partner to be orgasmic ?[/quote]

I would say it's very important for me, because I get a great feeling out of knowing that she has reached that place of pleasure. I try to make her orgasm first before doing anything for myself. Usually after that happens, she then is so happy that she then turns her attention to me and then tries to give me as much pleasure in return, all out of her own, without me even wanting/asking for/expecting it. It makes the whole overall experience just amazing.

Sadly, the only regret I have, is that I only ever have one-night stands or sex-buddy type of arrangements. There are several reasons for this, and I've never ever had a girlfriend. And, without love, the whole experience is great but not as great as it can be. I've reached a stage now where I don't even want to have sex, because I no longer get enjoyment out of it, as a matter of fact I never did. All the physical pleasure is there, but no love.

If I had my way, I'd make sure she had her orgasm first. It was my pattern to go down on them first until they had an orgasm. When they had theirs, the pressure was off, which allowed me to enjoy the following experience a great deal more.

My wife can't stand for me to go down on her for too long without wanting me in her. Regardless of who comes first, I feel it's my responsibility to make sure she at least finishes.

I have always been aware, focused and concerned with my partners pleasure & climax. Her orgasms only increase my pleasure and can at times help intensify my climax.
My ex couldn't reach the peak without a lot of attention and that normally meant using hand held aides. I was never against the time and effort to bring her over the top, but she would become concerned i would resent having to spend the extra time helping her achieve the "O". I never did, to me it wasn't an issue.
My current lady has no problem reaching the peak & usually is there before i get there.
She is multi-orgasmic but i still stay aware of her pleasure needs.
I agree that reaching orgasm isn't the one most important detail in sex, but if and when it happens, it does make everything better for both.
Talk to your partner, listen well to what she says, discuss it at every opportunity but don't make it the end all conversation. Mention it casually during foreplay, pay attention during intimacy and don't forget the all important afterplay! Your partner is the only one who knows how important it is to her and the best way to help her achieve it.

I always get my wife off before I even start then we both get us going and to be honest there are times I don't finish. That is not from a lack of trying but I am very long last since my first time. I am lucky as I can have great sex without finishing myself.