Failure

Hi all,

I'm trying to get my life back on track but at the same time I'm not expecting too much good to come my way.
I can't shake the thoughts and feelings off and I'm afraid of too many things.
It is killing me inside.

I will try my best to cope with what I'm facing and maybe even focus on myself a bit more, but I can't escape the guilt that has piled up towards my significant other and the 'strain' that I've put on something precious.
Here goes;

Is there other men here who have/have had a serious problem of letting their wife/gf/bf to be a part of their problems?
(I don't have the healthiest way of seeing 'what a man should be', so I lie/don't share my problems with my gf almost at all)

Will things in bed get better? Because I'm afraid that this will stay on forever.
(I don't want any sex at all and I've barely wanted any sex in so many years)

Are you able to talk about these things with your mates?
(I still can't, because I'm too afraid and I consider that everybody has other things to worry about..)

More importantly, I feel that I've failed in every aspect of being a man and that even if my gf would accept me as I am, I couldn't accept myself.
(It's really a morbid 'archetype' that I have, but it's what I have for now)

So I'm asking if anybody has similar experiences and to share.
I have really no-one yet to talk with.

If you feel that you have advice, please help but if you just want to share feel free.
Anything helps really.

Thank you all.

I have been married 23 years this August,I have noticed through out most of them years I have had to go to what a woman calls a man cave to regroup my thoughts an try to make the right decisions and approaches on everything that is going on at that time, not sure if that will help but time away helped me alot,I share my problems with my spouse but a selective times ,timing to me is everything in a good relationship,not saying mine is perfect by no means, I have had many trial an tribulations through out all my years lol,I believe you get your time away to refuel so to say will help alot just my 2 cents lol good luck.