Guys what do you do about random erections in the day?

Since this is a guys' section..

Guys I just HATE it when I get that random out of nowhere huge erection in the middle of the day, first thing in the morning, or just sitting on the bus.

It also sucks when it happens on a date you're really hot for after some light touching, but you know she will not take it further that night.

Do you ever experience this? What about the phenomonen called "blue balls" in that she has you all worked up on a date but on your way home (alone) you feel that stinging pain down there?

What do you guys do in this situations to cope?
Are there better alternatives to masturbation?

I may have come off a bit strong in earlier forum posts but maybe I was asking the wrong gender. After all only a fellow male experiences exactly the same feelings and therefore understands me, right?

I wish I could get an erection lol. Paxil has turned me off.

I've sprouted morning wood pretty often and sometimes during the day, although some days it's more frequent than others. It can be embarassing but not much you can do about it other than hide it or try to distract yourself.

I try to do something that involves heavy manual labour and trying to think of something else that I don't like. The latter doesn't always work and sometimes takes longer to work.

Sex, hand-jobs, oral jobs, etc... . Basically, sex in general.

It's been awhile since somebody responded to this post, but I thought I would respond anyways. Perhaps behind your question of what you said of being frustated of what to do about getting an errection when you don't want to at times is what is normal for getting errections? Some men have trouble getting an errection at all, and others, especially younger men can sometimes fall into the other extreme of getting an errection frequently. So, part of the situation is understanding if you are a younger guy, particularly around 30 years old or younger, you may be just a normal guy with a normal sex drive for your age.

The second thing to consider in response to you question of what to do in these uncomfortable situations as you said is to 1) As I said realize you might be very normal is this 2) consider how you view women. Our thoughts determine our behaviours. If a man is thinking about sex all the day, then he might be more likely to get errections and want to act on that. However, if a man is learning to temper is sexual drive with an understanding of women in a healthy way, he may have less of a problem with what your talking about. For example, if you stop to think that women are people like men (although different in many ways), and women want to be looked at like people and respected like people, this kind of thinking may help you.

Finally, I can relate to what you say, for at times I have been where you are. Although it can be difficult, try to relax, consider talking about this with someone you trust whether it be a counselor or someone at your church if you go like a pastor or priest.

Erections? In the middle of the day? What is this of which you speak?

Haha...I be fiddy+ years old with a regimen of meds that make those a distant memory.

All ain't lost...however if I sport much on my own these days, it's just fond memories of spontaneous out of the blue boners.

However...Modern science is fine stuff...I may be down but I ain't out. Cialis, while less than ideal in theory and practicality is more than effective for me. Otherwise I'd be posting on the depression forum more than any other. Pricey bastards tho...

All you young guys? Don't smoke and stay healthy. Keep the cholesterol and high blood pressure in check. Weight too. No-one prefers the pill route when they get older. It can be avoided or at least slowed down in many cases with a decent healthy system.

There are some suggestions:
1. You can be proud of it - it's perfectly normal!
2. If seated, cross your legs.
3. Not to worry, it will eventually go away on its own.
4. Change your thoughts to something non-sexual.
5. Realize that you have sexual needs that are not being met and do something about it, e.g., masturbate in private or find someone who will help you meet your sexual needs in a healthy way.

Participating in active sports sometimes is a good way to deal with unmet sexual needs because it is a physical outlet.

I agree that it is normal for men (and women) to be attracted to the other sex and for their bodies to sometimes correspond to this attraction. Secondly, you mentioned not worrying about these situations and trying to think of something else which I think makes sense.

Yet, in your mention of acting on on these feelings, I think some things need to be considered, some of which you mentioned already. An important part of this suggestion that you gave is that this becomes a moral question in acting on feelings.

I know you mentioned acting in a healthy way with your feelings, which begs the question, "what is healthy and moral behavior for having sexual feelings?" People have many answers for these questions according to their faith and religious practices and other values. Which brings up what you mentioned about masturbation.

Although masturbation may feel good and seem like a way of acting out sexual feelings, I think something that psychcentral would agree with something I am going to say because there is a forum on this topic. When a person masturbates, it can easily become addictive. Even if the person tells himself, "I am going to just masturbate this one time or couple of days since I feel like it," this can trigger an addiction to masturbation. Just try looking on this site for the people who want to work or just watch a baseball game, but they cannot because they are addicted to sexual fantasy, masturbation and worse.

The simple answer is that masturbation leads to bigger problems and people need to find better ways to handle their problems. I understand many people may disagree with this, but this is the truth.

Masturbation in moderation is perfectly normal. Ethics are only involved if the masturbation involves things like doing it in public or using pornography that is immoral, e.g., child porn. Sex is addictive - not just the practice of masturbation - and I believe it is preferable to say that one's goals should always be to practice it in a healthy way.

I do agree that there are advantages to engaging in healthy sex with a partner. But, even in relationships, masturbation happens and I believe that it is not helpful to chastise the healthy practice of masturbation in moderation.