Don't know how to act around good-looking women..

InfiniteSadness · Jun 12, 2013 at 06:24 PM

I have trouble acting normal in regular society because of my issues, but with attractive women its even worse.. I dont know why i dont know how to act.. I just freeze up or something.. Its almost like im defeated already. Like i have a sign on me that says im a failure, literally.

allimsaying · Jun 14, 2013 at 06:46 AM

I think what you're really asking is how to act around women you find attractive. Beauty is different for different people.

I think if you are healthy you act the same around all people. If theres a woman you want to ask out, it would be considered normal to pay her a little more attention than someone you wouldnt want to ask out. Pull out her chair for her or make yourself available by being near her in some way. Dont be creepy about it.

Michel_H · Jun 17, 2013 at 02:15 AM

Your perception of your own self is what's holding you back. Stop worrying too much and speak with girls or women the way you would talk to a male friend, minding the content of the conversation of course.

InfiniteSadness · Jun 17, 2013 at 10:56 PM

Yeah but once that "nervousness" kicks in, its all DOWN hill from there for me.... and i don't consider myself "great" looking... i also live in my head a lot

allimsaying · Jun 19, 2013 at 12:00 AM

I totally get it. I used to feel so freaked out by girls I would become froze up and couldnt think and Id have an anxiety attack and my thoughts would be jumping and it was really wonderful

I think the right girl for you helps you feel comfortable with yourself but we dont want them to fix us, just understand and be caring. You'll get a vibe from her and she'll relax you somehow.

Dont worry about your looks. That wont matter to her. I live in my head a lot too lol.

Jun 20, 2013 at 01:20 AM

I started to have sexual thoughts about guys as early as the age of 8.

Jun 20, 2013 at 01:21 AM

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Originally Posted by InfiniteSadness

I have trouble acting normal in regular society because of my issues, but with attractive women its even worse.. I dont know why i dont know how to act.. I just freeze up or something.. Its almost like im defeated already. Like i have a sign on me that says im a failure, literally.

I guess it's because you're too nervous about it and you want to be modest in front of them so you get all nervous and you kinda just want to please them by relating anecdotes of who you are... am i right?

DocClyde · Jun 20, 2013 at 03:19 PM

No one ever considers themselves the best looking person, compared to others. You must understand that you are thinking low of yourself and have to find ways and tools of dealing with your lower self-esteem.

Hoasis · Jun 25, 2013 at 09:59 AM

Try to imagine these "beautiful" women with no make up, naked sitting on the toilet taking a dump and the smell like no other! They are humans just like everybody else

InfiniteSadness · Jun 25, 2013 at 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by DocClyde

No one ever considers themselves the best looking person, compared to others. You must understand that you are thinking low of yourself and have to find ways and tools of dealing with your lower self-esteem.

Story of my life..

InfiniteSadness · Jun 25, 2013 at 09:00 PM

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I guess it's because you're too nervous about it and you want to be modest in front of them so you get all nervous and you kinda just want to please them by relating anecdotes of who you are... am i right?

I DON'T want to get embarrased in front of them- been through that in high school- i fear that the most-- along with REJECTION... So you can see how hard it is.. i also want to kind of impress them?? or act cool... the whole shebang..

DocClyde · Jun 26, 2013 at 11:03 AM

It sounds like you have to deal with your self-esteem before you deal with this. You have to like yourself before you begin to like others.

InfiniteSadness · Jul 08, 2013 at 01:26 AM

I lack confidence around women- i also resent them to an extent.. i think it has something to do with the idea that men are supposed to be 'better' than women at most things...

HelloWorld18 · Jul 10, 2013 at 04:22 PM

Act normal and treat them normally. They don't need any more attention than a less attractive girl.

InfiniteSadness · Aug 17, 2013 at 12:24 AM

any way to work out my anger towards women in general?

ATJC · Sep 08, 2013 at 03:20 AM

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any way to work out my anger towards women in general?

Work on losing the preconception that as a man you have to be better than them.

ADDithers · Nov 05, 2013 at 11:09 PM

I admit nervousness around attractive women. It's not because I don't feel confident around them though, I believe it's because of the power they have - to create incredible ecstasy. That leaves me uncomfortable.

IndieVisible · Nov 05, 2013 at 11:38 PM

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any way to work out my anger towards women in general?

I don't think that your anger towards women has any thing to do with who's better. I think it's based on the fact that they seem to have this power over you and that's what you hate. But you can turn it around. Just talk about it more in therapy.

LifeIsCruel · Feb 13, 2014 at 07:12 AM

Act as they do!

Act like you are "better than them" and uppidity!

You will fit right in friend!

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InfiniteSadness Grand Member Member Since Aug 2012 Location: USA Posts: 985 12 58 hugs given	Jun 12, 2013 at 06:24 PM #1 I have trouble acting normal in regular society because of my issues, but with attractive women its even worse.. I dont know why i dont know how to act.. I just freeze up or something.. Its almost like im defeated already. Like i have a sign on me that says im a failure, literally.
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Michel_H Junior Member Member Since Jun 2013 Posts: 19 11 1 hugs given	Jun 17, 2013 at 02:15 AM #3 Your perception of your own self is what's holding you back. Stop worrying too much and speak with girls or women the way you would talk to a male friend, minding the content of the conversation of course.
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InfiniteSadness Grand Member Member Since Aug 2012 Location: USA Posts: 985 12 58 hugs given	Jun 17, 2013 at 10:56 PM #4 Yeah but once that "nervousness" kicks in, its all DOWN hill from there for me.... and i don't consider myself "great" looking... i also live in my head a lot
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Anonymous32433 Guest Posts: n/a	Jun 20, 2013 at 01:20 AM #6 I started to have sexual thoughts about guys as early as the age of 8.
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DocClyde Legendary Member Since Feb 2005 Location: Just left of Greenland... Posts: 11,734 19 2,375 hugs given	Jun 20, 2013 at 03:19 PM #8 No one ever considers themselves the best looking person, compared to others. You must understand that you are thinking low of yourself and have to find ways and tools of dealing with your lower self-esteem. __________________ Believe you can and you're halfway there. --Theodore Roosevelt
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Hoasis Member Member Since Jun 2013 Location: Scandinavia Posts: 86 11	Jun 25, 2013 at 09:59 AM #9 Try to imagine these "beautiful" women with no make up, naked sitting on the toilet taking a dump and the smell like no other! They are humans just like everybody else
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DocClyde Legendary Member Since Feb 2005 Location: Just left of Greenland... Posts: 11,734 19 2,375 hugs given	Jun 26, 2013 at 11:03 AM #12 It sounds like you have to deal with your self-esteem before you deal with this. You have to like yourself before you begin to like others. __________________ Believe you can and you're halfway there. --Theodore Roosevelt
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InfiniteSadness Grand Member Member Since Aug 2012 Location: USA Posts: 985 12 58 hugs given	Jul 08, 2013 at 01:26 AM #13 I lack confidence around women- i also resent them to an extent.. i think it has something to do with the idea that men are supposed to be 'better' than women at most things...
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HelloWorld18 Member Member Since May 2013 Posts: 299 11 6 hugs given	Jul 10, 2013 at 04:22 PM #14 Act normal and treat them normally. They don't need any more attention than a less attractive girl.
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InfiniteSadness Grand Member Member Since Aug 2012 Location: USA Posts: 985 12 58 hugs given	Aug 17, 2013 at 12:24 AM #15 any way to work out my anger towards women in general?
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ADDithers Member Member Since Dec 2010 Location: Los Angeles CA Posts: 135 13	Nov 05, 2013 at 11:09 PM #17 I admit nervousness around attractive women. It's not because I don't feel confident around them though, I believe it's because of the power they have - to create incredible ecstasy. That leaves me uncomfortable.
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LifeIsCruel Member Member Since Feb 2014 Location: USA Posts: 207 10 193 hugs given	Feb 13, 2014 at 07:12 AM #19 Act as they do! Act like you are "better than them" and uppidity! You will fit right in friend!
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