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Default Jul 10, 2013 at 09:32 AM
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to be honest, I really don't like puberty. i am sick and tired of sinning. ever since I was 12, I've been viewing porn. At age 14, I began to masturbate. Gosh, i am so sick of doing that. I don't like watching porn. It's like I am being punished for something I did in the past.
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Default Jul 10, 2013 at 11:30 AM
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It generally starts to slow down in your thirties, when testosterone levels begin to decline. At which point you will find you gain weight more easily and have a harder time losing it. You will lose muscle tone and flexibility. You will lose your breath and have trouble breathing with relatively little physical activity. Sickness will last longer and feel worse. You may have seen all sorts of advertisements for prescription and over-the-counter remedies for men who want their testosterone back. You'll know why when it happens to you.

The problem is the ideas you have in your mind about sin and guilt. I'm not saying that you are wrong or that the person who told you about sins was wrong. I'm not saying I'm right and that you should believe me instead. What I would suggest is that instead of holding such rigid views on sin and guilt, that you should start asking questions. Be sure that you really are judging yourself based on your own beliefs and not someone else's. Question the motives of the people who would tell you that you are sinful - misery loves company. Maybe they want you to be guilty because it makes them feel better, or at least no so alone. Maybe it is just habit. So long as you have guilt in your mind, question it and see if it is truly deserved.
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Default Jul 10, 2013 at 03:51 PM
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Porn is there to be appreciated, watch and enjoy as much as you can. Let your seed shoot freely. Lack of release is not healthy. Wank like you love it!
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Default Jul 10, 2013 at 04:19 PM
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Masturbation itself is actually healthy and it's not a sin.

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At some point (probably more than once) during these years, you will need to deal with the subject of masturbation . As children approach adolescence, you will have to make a judgment call on what to say about the significance of self-stimulation after puberty arrives. It is extremely likely that masturbation leading to sexual climax will occur at some point, especially for a male. If he is racked with guilt about it and repeatedly vows never to let it happen again, he will probably expend a lot of energy feeling like a moral failure and worrying unnecessarily about his spiritual welfare.

But when masturbation becomes a routine and frequent habit, especially when accompanied by vivid sexual fantasies or, worse, the viewing of pornography, it can be damaging to sexual and emotional health. In essence, a young man may have hundreds of sexual experiences associated with unrealistic or overtly distorted imagery, reinforced with the extreme pleasure of sexual release. At the very least, when he marries, his real-life sexual partner may seem disappointing by comparison, and his physical and emotional bonding with her may be impaired. This problem will be more significant if there have been many actual sexual partners before the wedding night. At worst, he may come in contact with violent or degrading images and associate his own sexual release with them.

Your approach to this issue will need to be both tactful and realistic. A bottom line worth stressing is that masturbation should not play a major role in your child's life, either as a source of relentless guilt or as a frequent and persistent habit that displaces healthy sexual relations in the future. If it happens once in a while, it happens. But it should not be pursued as a form of recreation, especially while viewing sexually provocative material, and it should never be allowed to occur with other people.
Source: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/pare...r-puberty.aspx

So basically, it's alright to masturbate every once in a while (like 2-4x a week), but it should get in the way of life and you shouldn't become a slave to it.
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Default Sep 06, 2013 at 03:35 PM
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Masturbation itself is actually healthy and it's not a sin.

Source: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/pare...r-puberty.aspx

So basically, it's alright to masturbate every once in a while (like 2-4x a week), but it should get in the way of life and you shouldn't become a slave to it.
Absolutely. A few studies indicated that it may even help prevent prostate cancer in older men. Most experts on sex pretty much agree with the above about frequency and not abusing/becoming addicted.

It's especially important for men without partners. That sense of release is pretty helpful in relieving tension, sexual and otherwise.

I doubt there is a guy on the planet who doesn't do it from time to time. I personally have a pretty healthy libido even at 48, and, well, I usually do it 3-4-5 times a week. I got no problem admitting that, although there was a time I would have been deathly ashamed to even talk about the subject. My T asked me if I did it, I did NOT answer that one, because she is a woman and I was embarrassed. I don't mind talking to the guys about it, although it is still touchy.

I know some religions don't approve -- that is kind of old thinking in some ways, back to the era when masturbation was considered taboo, even harmful - "you'll go blind" etc. Have to respect that, but the guilt trip, as with the OP, is psychologically not a good thing. Makes them ashamed of satisfying a basic biological urge.

I consider myself a pretty normal hetero male. Started at puberty, around 14, and I still do it, even when I have been with women. It's especially gratifying if they will do it to you, exciting. I think it is healthy, normal, and is a safe release for those not in committed relationships. Helps with maintaining function as we age, can be used as a tool in some situations to deal with PE or other sexual issues that trouble guys. Final comment, I have very rarely watched porn, I find it's not necessary for me, I fantasize about past and hopefully future situations.

Please, OP, don't feel guilty, you are NOT being punished, by God or anyone else. Masturbation is common among higher animals, primates especially. It is just biology and evolution at play.
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