does anyone here have little experience with women..

Also, does anyone here just kind of want action from a woman and not a relationship? I'm tired of waiting...

most guys want this, it'll just never happen.

You could easily hire a prostitute if all you wanted was action.

^ i think the above comment is a bit insensitive..

Honestly, when I was younger, I was never really out there just to have a good time. I always thought just playing the field, having one nighters was kind of sleezy, immoral. I was looking for some deep emotional connection with a woman. And ended up in a few relationships that went nowhere, and only met one woman who I would describe as the love of my life - and she was married, very unhappily, but a devout Catholic who wouldn't consider divorce (somehow, she could go for adultery, go figure). I have only slept with four women in my life, and I haven't seen anyone in years.

I regret this now. And honestly, I bet there hasn't ever been a man alive on this planet who went to his death thinking " if only I had had less sex". I know I'm not looking for some deep thing any more. If i do find that love if my life again, great, but sex is important for health, too, both physical and mental - like anything, as long as you keep it in balance. i am just working on getting myself in shape, physically and mentally, so I can get back out there. Would I have a one nighter now? You betcha. As long as there are no attachments, she and I both know why we are in it, for one reason. I disagree it will never happen, it does, and many women feel that way, too, especially as you get older. Just depends on the person. I don't think it makes me some kind of sleeze for stating it or feeling this way, either. Maybe it does, but I have gone through too much in my life to really care to be judged any more - I say any behavior that is not harmful to yourself or anyone or anything else and is voluntary and done with informed consent is ok.

Reminds me of the lyrics of this Lady Antebellum song:

How bout baby
We make a promise
To not promise anything more than one night
Complicated situations
Only get worse in the morning light
Hey I'm just lookin' for a good time

I don't understand your title question but I can speak to your post. question There are a lot of women out there who just want the same thing you want. All you have to do is be in the right place at the right time. Not to be disagreeable but you don't need to hire a hooker and whatever happens is only as cheap and sleazy as you want it to be. For a single person (male or female) with a normal sex drive there's nothing wrong with a little sex for sex sake.

My wife is the only woman I've ever been with. It's not that I didn't try, but to be honest, I couldn't buy a date at the Bunny Ranch. Not sure why my wife latched on to me, but I'm really lucky in that regard.

a little, yes.

I feel ya OP. I'm 24 and I've never had a relationship (nor intimate) with a woman before. I had a couple "girl" friends in high school, but my relationships between them had eventually fizzled before I could really get my foot in the door. Perhaps they knew I was wanting more than a friendship.

As I sit here today, I'll admit I do feel sexually frustrated.. often to the point of neglect. I understand that a woman is much more than a sex object, but my inner man also has this deep need for intimacy. Lots of men in this world get their sex on, often very frequently.

It's hard not to envy when you feel behind in the game. It's not that I'm playing my cards wrong, I just wasn't given certain cards to begin with.

I totally feel where you come from InfiniteSadness. I've always thought I wanted a relationship, but now that I'm 31 and have had less than no intimacy with a woman, I'm starting to change my mind. I agree with previous posters that women are more than sex objects, but I need it almost as much as breathing or eating (apparently it is now a prerequisite for love). Believe me I know the feeling of "what do I have to do?" It's painful to see some guys just show up and have women flock into bed with them while good honest guys (and I'm sure it happens with women also) get the business end of the deal.

...you know what I would say won't you?

Perhaps, that it is called a "one night stand" because it is not based on a deep commitment and a long term relationship? Or that a woman looking for this sort of interaction will recognize and avoid men who appear to be carrying an unusual amount of emotional baggage? That sort of thing? Having failed to have a "one night stand" myself, I can only guess as to how to go about hooking up in this way. On the other hand, the information is out there on the internet. Be prepared, because it is going to cost time and money and effort. On the other hand, if you do become a "pickup artist" your confidence will certainly benefit in the process.

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Yeah, I don't. I get turned down left and right by women. There are times when I feel like I am destined to be alone.

This is easily acquired with a membership on an adult dating website.

I had somebody like this before, we would mess around "experiment" and do all kinds of fun positions and kinky stuff. Having dated several women before in my life it was a great thing. Then we started talking to each other and realized how similar we are to each other. Eventually she said she loved me and I said I loved her to. Even though I told myself it was a big fat lie, since I was already in a long term abusive relationship with an antisocial narcissistic woman who traumatized me in more ways than one. Now that several years have gone by since all this happens, I still masturbate thinking about all the cool stuff we did together she was the best I ever had. And it took me years of loneliness to start missing her. I tried contacting her again recently and found out she is now lesbian and wants nothing to do with me or any guy for that matter.


EDIT: And the only time I had a one night stand it was by decision, I didn't want nothing to do with that girl, we aren't even friends. The other time I attempted to have a one night stand with this other girl I didn't like, I banged her out all night. Then she wanted to keep coming back for more "casual sex" over a period of about a week. She was very up front that she didn't want to have a relationship because she was supposedly already in one with somebody else. The best way to have casual sex is to screw other people's girlfriend. It sounds worse than it really is, especially if you don't know the dude.

Please reserve judgements about my character by statements made above, I wasn't trying to offend anybody or sound like I'm heartless. I'm not heartless, I'm a lover, just been single for a long time and casual sex was the best thing that ever happened to me. Worst case scenario to trying to get casual sex is rejection and the more you get rejected by women the less it hurts.

HNS, no judgement here. From my vantage point, I say take it whereever you can get it brother.

Little may be an understatement, but yes. Though I want more in a relationship than just sex, although if a woman came on to me and wanted to have sex I don't see myself saying no.

I am gay and have only messed around with guys, so yes

Both men and women, 'hookup' when they want. I know I've had my share of hookups...but I find that type of sex unfulfilling. I've been married for 14 years and really only can be fulfilled by my wife. I like to look at other women and sometimes flirt, but deep down I know if I were to get with them, it may not be that great.

At the end of the day it's all about primal reproductive competition. I stay in as good a shape as I can and really try to understand women. They do the same.

I honestly don't recomend it to you, and hope that you reconsider one night stands.

One night stands are very emotionally draining and can lead to depression. No amount of sex will satisfy the need for companion and understanding, and if all you want is an orgasm you should truly reconsider the entire situation.

No person has ever had sex with others without getting their feelings involved, and sooner or later your mind, heart and soul will make you pay back for the broken things.

Trust me, I stopped it, and as soon as I did I started becoming better balanced and dating serious girls. It is better to wait than to embark in a neverending quest for pleasure.

I have very little experience with women and I'm 52 years old. I never had a girlfriend until I was 33, that was a difficult relationship and only lasted about a year and I haven't been in another relationship since. What makes it hard to understand is that I'm not shy or a loner, I've always had friends and an active social life, I just don't understand what you're supposed to do to get a sexual/romantic relationship. I'm not scared of women and I don't have any problems talking to women, I guess I just don't know how you let someone know you're interested, or how you can tell if they're interested in you. But to tell the truth it doesn't bother me that much any more - although in a way it bothers me that I'm not bothered, because I feel like I should be, if that makes any sense.

It's hard not to envy when you feel behind in the game. It's not that I'm playing my cards wrong, I just wasn't given certain cards to begin with.

At least you were dealt some cards. I wasn't dealt ANY cards.

I've never been fond of casual sex. I'm like a woman in that regard. I have to be emotionally invested for it to be its best, especially now that I'm in my forties. So guess what? I don't get any (I'm single) and I don't care too much. But that is a bit harder to cope with in the 20's and 30's.

I don't think casual sex is all it's cracked up to be. I'm a man and sure, I want sex all the time, I think that's normal, but I don't allow myself. Ultimately it's just dangerous and a big responsibility. I think having sex with a devoted partner where the sex is about an emotional connection is the only kind of sex that is healthy. I think sex for sex sake is destructive.

Anyway, to the point. I know you don't want to wait but I personally don't think you will get much out of casual sex. It'll feel good for a short while but the moment it's over you will regret it, it's a degrading experience, it will not live up to your expectations, and you will probably be worried about STI's for months after the fact.

I know I've already posted in this thread but it's still going so...
I have enough experience to know that experience doesn't really count for much. Just be yourself and have interest and respect and things will turn out however they turn out. There is no "key" to women.

The key to women is accepting that they will never be happy if what you want doesn't fit with what they want. Why? Because wanting something they have nothing to do with is tantamount to cheating. You should never try to take or get what you want. Always let them give it to you. Or at least think they gave it to you or were otherwise somehow involved. As for what they want?....

"Women want roasted ice." -Arab proverb