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Poohbah
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I never had a "dad" in any sense of the word. I had a nightmare of a father who treated me like absolute garbage and beat me down in every possible way at every possible opportunity.
No brothers, (which saved another guy the same grief and heartache, at least), no uncles or other male role models as a kid. Not allowed to participate in any sports or activities, so no coaches, no scoutmasters, no mentors of any kind. And no friends. That wasn't allowed, either. So, I grew up desperately lonely. And I really still am. I know people, I interact, but I still don't have any close friendships of real significance. No one I can really confide in. I want a do-over, please. Just the chance to be a kid again, and do the things I didn't get to do. And make friends, real friends, the kind that are there for you in your life. Too much to ask for? |
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Not too much to ask for at all, dude.
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I think there are a lot of people in the position of not having many (or any) friends.
With all the dating web sites, it would be nice if there were some sites for people to just meet friends, or if there are some could someone let me know where they are. __________________ “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. ... We need not wait to see what others do.” Gandhi |
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Poohbah
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Actually, funny, my psychiatrist brought this up the other day, and suggested a site called meetup.org (might be dot com). It's just for meeting up with people with similar interests and hobbies, non-romantic, can be people of either gender. Usually activity centered. I'm trying to find a riding partner, a guy about my age with similar goals and abilities, to train with evenings, early mornings, and weekends, both/either mountain/rough trail or road. So far, nothing too promising, all of the cycling groups are too far away to be practical, but I'm going to keep trying.
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great ideas!!! I've met people and made friends in some similar activities!
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yes, that would be a great idea, Mike!
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Have heard of this site, but don't know anything about it! Good luck with it, hope you get some results you're pleased with! Take care!
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Another place to meet people and make friends, is peer support groups, both DBSA and NAMI (Google them) will have support groups in most cities, I live in a fairly small city and we have support groups from both organizations.
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Sometimes hobby and special interest forums are a good place to meet people who share a common passion, lately I have been posting in an online automotive forum similar in design to this one, and have met some cool people to talk with.
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Meetup.com is a great site ----if you are in a major metropolitan city. I am in New Jersey - most if not all of the meetup groups are in New York city. That doesn't help me, but I continue to hope that someday I will get notified that there is a group in my area.
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it's real hard to find "true blue" friends.
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Here's a thought... You're looking for friends and are sad that you didn't have the dad you thought you should have right...? Maybe you could identify those characteristics and traits that you think a dad should have. Then adopt those and implement with the people you meet.
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My dad was only a bill payer. Good thing but guys need some kind of bonding. He raced go carts until I was 7 and we went with him. After that nothing. Never played anything with us like sports and did not want us to play so we didn't want us to get hurt. We never did nothing as a family. No fishing (which I love), no games, no movies, no bowling, no vacations. Nothing until we were out of school.
Probably why my oldest brother has very little to do with him now. My other brother does call often. I'm stuck with him with my mi. How bad is that. Now he was/is a good man, but how would you feel to be stuck for the moment with someone who caused so much pain when I was growing up. |
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