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as a man how would you reveal (to your significant other or to a close friend) about your abusive past? Would you only tell them if they (for whatever reason) asked, or would you want to someday tell them in order to feel closer to them?
I'm asking this because in all honesty, I wouldn't be able to tell anyone, and if someone asked I'd lie about it or downplay it. it's embarrassing to not be able to fight back / defend myself and even more embarrassing that im a boy. |
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I meant that I'm a boy AND am weak... I didn't mean it to sound as though I dislike my gender.
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Maybe that's something you should seek some therapy for. Sometimes it's easier to talk things out with a person that isn't emotionally vested in you. Maybe you could start there. I still have trouble discussing things about what has and is going on with me with my wife. I find discussing them with my doctor and or therapist helps a lot. Good luck with your situation. It has to be hard with what you've been through.
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If u feel Comfortable enough to tell them and u think they can handle it then why not ;-)
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I think it would depend on the relationship and your partner. If you are a boy as you say, I'd seek professional help, as it may well be too much for a child to understand or deal with; you shouldn't even have to deal with this yourself. :\ Hope you get some support.
If, however, you just meant "male" and are an adult, then ... I'd say that, once again, it depends on the relationship and your partner, but I'd also recommend telling her if you feel you two are very close and love each other, etc. If it's just a few days in, maybe leave it out. I guess it really just depends on what's going on over there - we don't have the big picture, unfortunately. To be fair though, dude, if you're gonna be judged harshly by a woman, for you being human and being mis-treated by someone else, then really I would personally question the precious time you feel is worth spending with her. I talked to my ex about some messed up stuff, as she did with me, and you know what? The world didn't implode. Best of luck. PS Sorry, just read your profile and it says you're "young", so I'm guessing you fall into the former category. I really think it's important you get some professional support, though, most especially because you're young and you are better to get help for this now, rather than wait years while it festers in your mind. I wish I had proper help when I was young; it would've solved a lot of problems, I reckon. >.< __________________ { Kein Teufel }
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The right place to open up about such stuff is therapy. Professionals are equipped to deal with such matters and can help you feel better and cope and move on. Your friends, SO, and family, most likely, are NOT equipped to deal with this kind of stuff. |
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