I'm 17 and I feel like I'll never have a girlfriend

It's not that simple unfortunately

Hi, I have the same problem. I know exactly what it feels like to get no attention from girls. I'm 24 now, and there seems to be no improvement in sight.
But here's the thing. Do you honestly think that just by getting a girlfriend magically fixes anything?

For example, I had always thought that I was unhappy because I've never had a girlfriend, had no money and was still a virgin.
Well, with a bit of luck I somehow managed to fix two of these problems, and my assumption turned out to be rather foolish and naive.
Having money doesn't fix your personal insecurities and definitely doesn't make you happy.
Sex and the whole virginity thing is severely overrated by society, you'll realize eventually.
As for relationships.. I don't know for sure but I stopped idealizing it.
Still, it was such a valuable enlightenment to realize that sex is no big deal and that, theoretically, I could get it anytime I want (by paying for it that is...). It didn't make me feel better at all, just opened my eyes that the problem is of far deeper nature. One that wouldn't be as easy to fix by simply completing a silly achievement.

But this is like, just my point of view on it man

Hey bud, I just wanted to add my 2 cents.

- First time I kissed a girl (actually, she kissed me) I was 23. Met the girl on an Amtrak train ... no BS !
- At 24, I got into my first and only serious relationship. We were in love, almost got married. That lasted about a year.
- Since then, I've been in numerous month-long attempts at relationships, meeting girls in a myriad of random ways (the latest was at a furniture store ... she offered up her #)

The point is ... random stuff happens over time ! You're too young to be anxious or worried about not having a girl. As Webgoji said, people your age (esp girls, if you ask me) don't yet know who they are or what they want, and that will change !

I know how you feel ... I've been in exactly that spot. And it ain't fun, but it ain't permanent ... nothing is.

Give it some time ... your true personality and identity will come out. In the meantime, enjoy your youth, and work on yourself (your career for example). You are bound to run into some chick, someday, who will want to take you home and use you for anatomy class.

Your life is just beginning. Countless experiences await you. Come back to this thread when you're my age (31) ... your wife probably won't let you

That was a reassuring read, thanks!
The train seems like such a bad place to meet people. Everyone is just listening to music, reading books, texting messages or just doing their own thing. Everyone seems to be annoyed, just wanting to arrive at their destination asap.
How the hell did you meet somebody in an environment like that?

LOL! Yes, trains are not the best place. However, the mädchen I met was horny as hell. It was the holiday season, it was kalt, and she needed a warm body next to her

Interesting. These pesky umlauts, hehe

Thanks for your reply! I have tried really, really hard to try to get my mind off of things like girls and sex, but it seems like those things are always thrown in my face, whether it be on the internet, TV, or even in real life. I know that you went through this before, so you probably know how I feel. It's not even just about the girls, I barely have any friends period. I never hang out with anyone or go out with anyone besides my mom and other family members. I've never even had really close friendships before, not even with other guys. I can't really say that I've ever had a best friend before. Sometimes I feel like I'll always be a social failure.

Thanks for your reply! I'm trying to work on myself currently (exercising) to hopefully help my chances. You're probably right about me being too young to be worrying about this stuff. I'm sure you know as good as I do that it just sucks seeing all of the other guys have success with girls while you're still waiting for a first kiss. Thank you for the encouraging words though. I really hope you're right about the anatomy class part!

Chin up, my man. Exercising is great ! Keep it up.

Another thing I wanted to mention is ... priorities change as you get older. When you're at your age or in your early twenties, it's all about looks and being cool and stuff. When you're older (and the girls you attract are older), it becomes more about things like your career (are you financially stable and successful ?), your health, and whether or not you would make a good partner (perhaps a husband).

Those "cool" guys and the assholes in high school and college who think they're hot **** will someday be working for minimum wage at Walmart, and if you're serious about your career, you might be the general manager of some large company, and guess who the chicks will come around to ? YOU.

So, what I'm trying to say is ... girls your age may just look for "cool" guys, but as you get older, they'll come around, and when they do, it would help if you have your life in order (career, health, emotional stability, etc). So working on yourself is very important, not just for the girls ... do it for yourself.

Yes, it sucks seeing other guys be better with girls, but remember this ... and this is something life will teach you ... everyone is good at some things, and bad at other things. Those guys may be playboys, but maybe they're also dumbasses who can't add 2 single digit numbers.

Maybe you're not very confident with girls, but you're very intelligent, and that will help you with your career and, in later life, with finding a long-term partner (most women like intelligence, at least in later life).

Thanks, man. I really appreciate the advice. I will try to work on myself. I thought last night and realized that if I was a girl, I probably wouldn't be attracted to me either. It's pretty depressing but it's true. I want to find a way to stand out from the other guys. My confidence and self-esteem are pretty low so I will also have to find ways to fix that as well. I just hope that it doesn't take that long for me to find a girlfriend, I'm really hoping that this all happens sooner than later.

"Those "cool" guys and the assholes in high school and college who think they're hot **** will someday be working for minimum wage at Walmart, and if you're serious about your career, you might be the general manager of some large company, and guess who the chicks will come around to ? YOU."

This really hit home for me, when, several years out of high school, I was walking down the street in my old neighborhood, when out of the blue, someone was saying, "HI" to me and when I turned to look, it was the high school football star who was in the process of unloading the beer truck he was driving for a living. Not that there's anything wrong with driving a beer truck, per se, but in the years since knowing him in high school, so much had changed in our lives and I definitely wasn't driving a beer truck for a living!

My point exactly

Yup, most of the dudes I know who were slaying it in high school are still living with their moms (who I'm sure are very sweet ladies, but dudes, we're in our mid-twenties).

The guys who buckled down and treated everyone with respect and grew at their own pace while allowing others to do the same are all in loving, positive relationships right now.

I was the same way at your age and you're handling it much better than I did.

Thanks for your reply! I do notice that a lot of the guys that attract a lot of girls aren't really going down successful paths, with the exception of a few. I don't know why the good looking girls seem to chase after those guys, but I'm not a girl, so I'll never understand it. Anyway, I appreciate everyone who has contributed to this thread. I'm just trying to stay hopeful and positive even though it gets hard sometimes.

You've got this, brother. Lift some weights (it's fun, I promise), learn about the world around you, and focus on improving yourself and being good to the people around you.

I know that's all pretty cliche, but it's cliche for a reason.

Like I said - you've got this.

im attractive
intelligent
25 and single
never had a first kiss
or anyone to hold hands with
some things just take time
worry about other things rather than being single

Trust me, I try to. The problem is that I am always reminded of the fact that I'm still single, whether it be seeing happy couples or seeing attractive girls that don't even look my way. I realize that I'm still young but I could imagine that most guys have at least had one girlfriend or at least a close female friend by my age. I can't say that I have had either.

you're so young i wouldnt sweat it so much. in a few yours you will grow and be a completely different person just work on being the best person you can be and the girls will come. everyone gets shot down by women so don't be afraid.

I know that I'm young but it still sucks. All of the teenage memories like taking girls to prom, having your first kiss, and having a girlfriend are things that I'll never get to experience. It's been getting me down a lot lately. I already have a good personality, at least I think I do. Most adults that talk to me tell me that I'm respectful, polite, and well-spoken. I'm known as a good kid. I already have self-esteem issues and insecurities, so the fact that I'm a social and romantic failure makes it even worse. Most guys my age have girlfriends and a social life, I just want to feel normal.