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Feb 10, 2015 at 05:24 PM
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Last night me and a good friend decided to have sex. It was my first time so as you can imagine I was nervous.
After the usual foreplay we began. It was only a matter of minutes however and I lost the erection. I want to know if there's really any cause.. I'm turning 18 soon so it can't be an age thing (in the UK, 16 is the age of consent) Now I'm left worrying that A. There's something wrong with me. B. That it'll just happen again, and C. That I'll not get over this and the worry will stop me actually succeeding. Any real answers would be a help. My main concern is that it was more than just nerves, perhaps some real psychological or hormonal issue that I'll have to have seen to. |
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Feb 10, 2015 at 08:24 PM
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Hello and Welcome to PC, fellow UK'er!
You mentioned that you were nervous. Being anxious can actually lead to issues sustaining an erection, so that's a possible cause you could consider. __________________ Bipolar life has it's ups and downs Currently experiencing slight relapse into depressive episode but overall stability for almost a year! |
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Feb 10, 2015 at 09:37 PM
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Yup. Anxiety is a real bonerkiller. Most peoples' first times aren't so great for this reason. But, you know what they say - practice makes perfect.
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Feb 17, 2015 at 04:00 PM
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Also, if you're in a relationship with this friend, communication is key to getting over the anxiety. If you and your friend talk about expectations and are honest with your feelings, that one "mishap" could really draw you closer together and make sex even more pleasurable. It's emotional intimacy that increases the pleasure in sex.
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