Hi there. New guy here. Need some advices

Hi there mates.
My life is a mess. Really. I hate myself. I'm shy, I have very very very low self-esteem, I feel weak, useless and sometimes I can't defend myself when others attacking me physically or verbally, socially awkward, too kind with the other and they profit of this, incapable to make new relationship and new friends (I have very few friends and none of them is a true friend that care of me) I have lots of paranoia too. These are ruining my life. I always feel inferior to the other person, I feel ugly (I have acne that ruin my face), no confidence in myself, incapable to impress others, I always think I smell bad (this is a paranoia for sure since I take a shower everyday but if someone near me start to gasp I go in paranoia and I finish ruining the day). This is enough? No, I'm gay too. Although I'm finally accepting this because this is the nature I am and I cannot change it , here where I live is still a negative thing and I don't talk about this with anyone. I want really bad someone to love and loves me. I feel alone , an empty person. Really mates, my life sucks. I want to change . I want to be like the other guys at my age that are always happy, full of friends, not shy, no paranoia and that enjoy their lives. I feel like I'm wasting precious time of my life that will never come back. Sorry for my bad English but I'm not from UK. Cheers

hi newguy93, sorry to hear that you are struggling. I know its hard when you feel out of place. To get to the bottom of your paranoia and self esteem issues, have you spoken to a professional about these feelings? It may be possible that there is an underlying issue that is causing this to happen. Once you figure out why you are having social anxiety and paranoia you can the learn to use positive coping to manage it. Then you can start to build your social life. Also, as far as acne, there are plenty of over the counter treatments to help with that. If you find no luck through store bought remedies, a general practitioner can maybe prescribe you a stronger treatment to control that issue. As far as you being gay? Who cares? That is as nature intended you to be. I'm sorry to hear that it is not accepted where you are. Do not EVER let anyone else tell you that its not okay. It is okay. You are who you are and be proud of that.

Hi mate. I answered in the other thread

Hi there mate! Welcome to Psych Central. Your English is fine. Sorry to hear you are feeling down and alone. There are many nice, compassionate people here at Psych Central. No need to be hard on yourself. We are all working on ourselves and trying to avoid the guilt and self condemnation trap. It isn't easy.

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I am kind of alone too but I do try to get exercise. I also do yoga and other gentle stretching exercises and meditation to help me get started with my day. Sometimes having this routine is what gets me started.

Hi mate. Thank you for spending 5 minutes to replying. Yes, feeling down and alone sucks. I Hope is a temporary thing and finally I can get rid of the all stupid paranoia I have (Yes, I already know that are stupid and are just a mental thing). Hope the best for you too mate

Thank you everyone for the support. I opened another thread in the correct section, so please lets continue over there

Locking, please use the following thread as requested by OP: http://forums.psychcentral.com/anxie...lp-please.html